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AIBU Husbands new car

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Jaxjacky Thu 07-Aug-25 13:48:58

If it’s a good friend I’d carry on in the other car, it’s only one night a week, a friendship is more important than going out in a new car to me.

Astitchintime Thu 07-Aug-25 13:04:42

Just tell her…..no point flowering up the conversation and why can’t she give you a lift once in a while?

Mt61 Thu 07-Aug-25 13:02:22

Why do you give her a lift when she has her own car?

Crossstitchfan Thu 07-Aug-25 09:15:10

Just tell her straight. “By the way, we have decided to make more use of our new car and will be taking that from now on. I’m afraid you’ll have to make your own arrangements. You’ve got your car though, so it shouldn’t be too much of a problem for you”
Enjoy your new car. Why should you not take it just because she is overweight and can’t get into yours? ‘Self inflicted, no sympathy’ is a phrase I like! She can use her own car and I don’t see why you should give up your pleasure to please her. If she didn’t have her own transport, and relied on you, it would be different. Not ok though! She is being needy and selfish. Be strong!

Nanato3 Thu 07-Aug-25 09:14:22

I'd just tell her I've changed my car and I'm sorry but I won't be able to give you a lift anymore due to hubby not being able to sit in the back ! Just say it like it is . She has her own car so she won't be stuck.

JOJO60 Thu 07-Aug-25 09:02:00

My husband's only vice is cars, and, with my encouragement he has recently bought a lovely 4 seater convertible. We used to have a 2 seater before, but due to hip and knee problems he found it difficult to get in and out so we sold it. This new one is larger and it's something he's always dreamed of. We planned to use it for nights out and daytime trips. We still have the old car for running around, shopping etc. The problem is, we give a lift to a friend on a friend one night a week and due to her being very overweight she will struggle to get into the back seat. As I drive home, and my husband has 2 knee and 2 hip replacements he won't be able to get in the back seat either. So, do we forego the nice car for her sake and use the old one? She has her own car, goes out every day in it, and often declines our lift if she wants to bring another friend with her. How do I tell her we're taking the convertible from now on and you won't be able to get in it?