AIBU Husbands new car

I'd just tell her I've changed my car and I'm sorry but I won't be able to give you a lift anymore due to hubby not being able to sit in the back ! Just say it like it is . She has her own car so she won't be stuck.

Just tell her straight. “By the way, we have decided to make more use of our new car and will be taking that from now on. I’m afraid you’ll have to make your own arrangements. You’ve got your car though, so it shouldn’t be too much of a problem for you”
Enjoy your new car. Why should you not take it just because she is overweight and can’t get into yours? ‘Self inflicted, no sympathy’ is a phrase I like! She can use her own car and I don’t see why you should give up your pleasure to please her. If she didn’t have her own transport, and relied on you, it would be different. Not ok though! She is being needy and selfish. Be strong!

Why do you give her a lift when she has her own car?

Just tell her…..no point flowering up the conversation and why can’t she give you a lift once in a while?

If it’s a good friend I’d carry on in the other car, it’s only one night a week, a friendship is more important than going out in a new car to me.

Perhaps he should have bought a 2 seater convertible instead and the problem wouldn't have arisen! We have a very nice main car in which we often take friends but they know, if we're going right into town where parking is difficult, we take the little old run around & they have to put up with it. Of she's a good friend, I'd take the other car once a week it won't hurt you. Anyway, I expect the novelty will wear off soon!

Could your friend get into the front seat and you go in the back?

Can your husband perhaps drive and you use the back seat enabling your friend to go in the front? Presuming you are insured of course. Your friend has her own car so possibly not a great hardship but that you had that arrangement must have been for some reason or why did you give a lift. If friend can't fit in new car and the swapping of driver isn't feasible you have no alternative but to tell your friend no more lifts.

Don’t be daft! It’s your husband’s dream. It’s putting this fat woman’s convenience before your husband’s dream. Just tell her you can’t give her a lift in the new car as your husband can’t ride in it comfortably if she’s in it. It’ll save your suspension, too.

You were helping her with lifts before but you are not obliged to choose a car that will enable her to continue. I also think that a larger two seater convertible would be better, if you don't need the back seats.

It says she drives home

Truddles tell it like it is!!! That’s just what I was thinking as I read and I laughed out loud!

How does your husband feel about it? I would happily take the other car if it was me but my husband would probably want to take his. I would sooner let my friend drive herself than prioritise her needs over my husband's. It would be different if she couldn't drive.

What Truddles said!!

I don't see why the old car you still have for shopping etc can't be used for that one night a week . If it was my friend, that is what I would do. As for the friend being overweight, there are many reasons for that and I feel it is unfair to judge. We do not know this person or the things she has been through etc.

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I'm baffled. How did the three of you manage when you just had the two-seater?
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Well, she'll just have to use her own car wont she, end of story.

Think I am with jax If you value her friendship and it's only one day a week , why not use your other car?

I think I would be a little more kind and explain that 'we would love to give you a lift as before but would you mind sitting in the back as Fred cant'. She then has the opportunity to turn you down, and kindly I hope.

it's your car, enjoy it, your friend has a car let her use it

Shelflife

Think I am with jax If you value her friendship and it's only one day a week , why not use your other car?

I feel Shelflife is right. But, ask yourself if you are possibly starting to resent giving such regular lifts? That would be understandable. Regular things like this can start to pall after a while. And considering she declines your lift sometimes and can drive herself, I wonder if it might be a relief for her possibly?
I would not forego the new car for this reason though. That would be far out of proportion in the circumstances.

It must have been very cramped with 3 of you in a 2 seater car.

It's your car,not her's. Let her take her own car.

Cambia

Truddles tell it like it is!!! That’s just what I was thinking as I read and I laughed out loud!

Me too! If she’s got her own car, why does she need lifts anyway? Does she usually plan on downing a lot of 🍷🍷🍷?