I cannot stand it either. Once I knocked on a door a street away, and the girl had no idea the noise had travelled so far, so she turned it down immediately.
I have told previous neighbours that I do not want to share their noise.
I don't mind an all-night raucous party, but only once a year.
Please let me know. Yes, I am a misery guts. I prefer silence.
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(55 Posts)I am at present sitting in my DD’s garden. Their neighbours have very loud music playing and it is driving me mad. My Dd and SiL don’t seem to mind. Btw it is 4pm.
Am I being unreasonable?
We have a neighbour who has a motorbike and seems to run the engine endlessly without actually going anywhere! He will work away in his drive without considering that the noise may be driving his neighbours potty! The other day, it was accompanied by a loud operatic performance on a radio. I had no idea that Verdi had included a part for a motorcycle engine in La Traviata. Hmm! This morning, he was at it again, but sans opera!
Sadgrandma
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Sadgrandma
I sympathise. We had to move years ago due to terrible neighbours. They had a teenage son who didn’t work and would get up about 11 AM to play his music so loudly that it rattled the plates on my dresser. I worked from home at the time and it almost gave me a breakdown. I complained to his mother who wouldn't believe me as she said he was out at work all day. After I complained the parents would regularly go away at weekends and the boy would have friends round all night and they would play their music at full volume all night, sometimes deliberately turning it up and down. The father would also play loud music in the garden. I still feel guilty that we sold the house to a widower with two young children who moved again within six months.
You should have got on to the council- that would have been my next step.
We did and the Police but nothing was ever done. In fact I think it made matters worse. The husband nailed a cross on our fence saying ‘Beware of Witches’. My normally gentle husband went round and threatened the little twerp and things quietened down for a while but we couldn’t stay there. We lost a lot of money on the house as we had to sell at for what we’d paid for it but it was worth it. Sadly these days you have to declare any disputes with neighbours so I doubt we would ever have been able to sell.
Goodness that’s terrible- I know you have to put any disputes down when you are moving house. That’s a shame you had to move.
Charleygirl5
I cannot stand it either. Once I knocked on a door a street away, and the girl had no idea the noise had travelled so far, so she turned it down immediately.
I have told previous neighbours that I do not want to share their noise.
I don't mind an all-night raucous party, but only once a year.
Please let me know. Yes, I am a misery guts. I prefer silence.
Yes not every weekend
Mt61
Unless you are 100% certain that you’re never ever going to move from your house complaining to the council should be an absolute last resort.
When sell ing you are required by law to declare the official complaint.
I totally agree dragonfly but today I'd swap. Our neighbour (who is lovely) has her brother round helping her construct a shed in the corner next to our garden. I think the whole of the village must be able to hear his every instruction.
I would hate it ! Not interested in what sort of music it is ' pop, classical , jazz, folk, I don't want when I am sitting
in my garden ! I love music but don't thrust it on to others! Fortunately we live in a very quiet area where we all respect our neighbours.
poppyred as you say it's a sunny afternoon so why make it miserable by playing music so loudly that neighbours can't feel comfortable in their gardens. Why can't they use headphones to enjoy their racket and let others have their peace. I don't play music loudly but always have headphones in so I don't disturb anyone.
I'd be annoyed if it went on for hours and hours into the night, or was early in the morning. We had neighbours once who thought it was acceptable to have their personal trainer round putting them through their paces in the garden to loud music at 7.30 on a Sunday morning! AND they had large outdoor speakers up on the wall so the sound was even more amplified. The wires for the speakers were in a little gap between their extension and ours and I was so tempted to cut them with a pair of loppers. Luckily, they moved away after a year or so and peace returned to the street...
If it's a one off for a party or BBQ I'd be OK with it for a couple of hours, but inflicting your choice of music on everyone around you isn't acceptable to me.
I like sitting in my garden with my little cd player playing Heavy Rock. BUT I do it with headset on so no one else has to share my taste in music. Mostly older people nearby (I am older also, 80 years) but still love my music! You do not have to annoy everyone else & hopefully everyone else should not annoy you but doesnt often work out that way does it?
Have you asked your neighbour if he would turn his music down a bit?
If you have, and he has refused, put on something you like and turn the sound right up.
We put opera on full blast when troubled by neighbours listening to Heavy Metal- they took the hint! So we did not have to repeat our bad behaviour.
Sadgrandma
I sympathise. We had to move years ago due to terrible neighbours. They had a teenage son who didn’t work and would get up about 11 AM to play his music so loudly that it rattled the plates on my dresser. I worked from home at the time and it almost gave me a breakdown. I complained to his mother who wouldn't believe me as she said he was out at work all day. After I complained the parents would regularly go away at weekends and the boy would have friends round all night and they would play their music at full volume all night, sometimes deliberately turning it up and down. The father would also play loud music in the garden. I still feel guilty that we sold the house to a widower with two young children who moved again within six months.
Oh, that's appalling!
I simply cannot comprehend the mentality of individuals who do this - play their music at maximum pitch constantly, day in day out. It's such arrogance to actually believe that you somehow have the right to impose yourself on others, neighbours, etc, in this way.
I remember walking through Richmond (Surrey) town centre years ago and a car with two young men had their speakers on full volume - you could actually hear the speakers juddering with the vibration. The music (I use the word loosely) was some kind of aggressive 'rap', with repetitive guttural utterances. The traffic was heavy and the cars frequently stationary and the noise dominated the whole street.
An on-duty police officer walked over to their car - the two men had both windows open, leaning their elbows on the frames and were staring fixedly and sullenly ahead as he approached. I remember him sticking his head through the open driver's window demanding that they turn down the noise, we don't all share your taste in music mate, so can it". They did, and then, when the traffic started moving again, revved up the engine simply to have the final 'say'.
A plague on such people. It appears little can be done - they get away with it.
I'm tolerant of parties, BBQs, etc, even if I think the music is awful - people can have fun. But indiscriminately blasting your music so that conversation is drowned out, peace shattered, for hours on end is really not acceptable and should be dealt with by force.
It doesn’t matter what style of music is being played, if it is interfering with with the neighbours it is a nuisance.
I hate other people’s noise - what bothers some doesn’t bother others. I don’t think you should be subjected to loud noise music, barking dogs etc. people should always think of others but they don’t.
Poppyred It is selfish to inflict noise on others. I get fed up of people like you calling respectable people who are quiet misery guts or the fun police. Everyone should be able to enjoy their outside space not just noisy people.
You are entitled to p and q in yr garden..neighbours are unreasonable
We have neighbours who had their speaker on the adjoining wall. We were nearly blasted off our seats when they put the "music" on. They have moved the speakers and so we just have to put up with constant thudding bass, albeit not so loud. Wait till I get my Cliff Richard records out and turn the volume up...
Sadgrandma
Mt61
Sadgrandma
I sympathise. We had to move years ago due to terrible neighbours. They had a teenage son who didn’t work and would get up about 11 AM to play his music so loudly that it rattled the plates on my dresser. I worked from home at the time and it almost gave me a breakdown. I complained to his mother who wouldn't believe me as she said he was out at work all day. After I complained the parents would regularly go away at weekends and the boy would have friends round all night and they would play their music at full volume all night, sometimes deliberately turning it up and down. The father would also play loud music in the garden. I still feel guilty that we sold the house to a widower with two young children who moved again within six months.
You should have got on to the council- that would have been my next step.
We did and the Police but nothing was ever done. In fact I think it made matters worse. The husband nailed a cross on our fence saying ‘Beware of Witches’. My normally gentle husband went round and threatened the little twerp and things quietened down for a while but we couldn’t stay there. We lost a lot of money on the house as we had to sell at for what we’d paid for it but it was worth it. Sadly these days you have to declare any disputes with neighbours so I doubt we would ever have been able to sell.
Ahh sad when you have hellish neighbours 😩
Nope,I'm with you,inconsiderate abd rude but you don't live their.... and if it does not bother your daughter and silly..I suggest you get noise cancelling headphones for when you're there.
Headbanger here too! I love my in ear pods so I don’t disturb anyone 😃
I'd feel exactly the same. I do not want to have to listen to other people's noise. Had to disconnect Alexa as she kept responding to the sounds/words blaring from neighbour playing loud music outside in afternoon. They did stop when explained to them. I always say it may be one who thinks they are entitled but if everyone did the same imagine what the noise would be like.
FYI.You can complain to local council,environmental health, about loud noise,also there are enforcement times and regulations
I personally find other people’s noise annoying and would never inflict my choice of music on my neighbours but we had neighbours who backed onto our garden who had regular all night parties in their garden at this time of year, it wasn’t just the music but the raucous laughter and shouting once guests have had too much to drink. The worst thing was when we had family staying because they had babies who would wake up easily in the night and were difficult to settle again. A neighbour two doors up complained and threatened to report them to the council but thankfully this year there hasn’t been any noise and our neighbour thinks the house was rented and now has new tenants who are much older.
It is horrible, I found it really hard to sleep and no amount of shutting windows kept the noise at bay.
dragonfly46, I fully agree with you 100% and also pably15, it IS a form of bullying and very selfish!
The neighbours when I live now are no trouble, no loud music or parties or anything, and even on Guy Fawkes night the fireworks only go on for about an hour then are promptly stopped, but over the years in other areas where I've lived I've had neighbours blasting out heavy metal, rock and punk all hours of the day and night, which I just can't abide at all full stop, and it's so loud the buildings actually quiver.
I couldn't sleep with its loudness and spent months like a zombie.
Can't tell them to wear noise-cancelling headphones, as I'd literally get knifed, so I moved as soon as I could!
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