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Needy friend from the past trying to reconnect

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Cambsnan Wed 20-Aug-25 18:12:41

A friend I was close to 40 years ago but only seen occasionally over the years has recently made contact wanting to see me. She sends endless text and complains I am slow to answer. I have a big family and lots of interests and friends. I really don’t want to revive this connection. She does not share my values but is clearly lonely. How do I gently disengage from her?

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Bungle22 Sat 06-Sept-25 10:26:19

I had a bad experience at work and left.
I texted a woman I’d been fairly friendly with there shortly after to see if she wanted a coffee sometime. She responded very vaguely and didn’t suggest meeting up so I forgot about it and moved on.
Now after 7 years I get a text suggesting meeting up, she’s left that job.
I declined and then got all the “I’ve been so busy,” bereavement etc.
Too late.

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GoodAfternoonTea Sat 06-Sept-25 13:36:01

Do what you feel is right. Are you responsible for this person's happiness or social life? Do you have a lot going on in your life? Personally, I just don't reply, block them, don't give them any air. They soon go elsewhere in search of what they need.

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