Am I a prude?

Mrsbee377

I don’t see an issue with people of older age having sex, not in the slightest. It’s just there’s a time and a place..!

In bed at night is a fairly normal time and place.

Scribbles

OP, is your main bedroom cold? Is there only a lightweight duvet on the bed? Perhaps your in-laws were feeling the chill of these late August nights and decided on some brisk exercise to get warm.
Maybe you should ask them if they'd like an extra blanket? 😆
Or perhaps you should find something real to worry about.

Why would it not be real, do you not think it would be a huge amount of effort for me to go and type that if I’d made it up?

OP, is your main bedroom cold? Is there only a lightweight duvet on the bed? Perhaps your in-laws were feeling the chill of these late August nights and decided on some brisk exercise to get warm.
Maybe you should ask them if they'd like an extra blanket? 😆
Or perhaps you should find something real to worry about.

In the early 1950s, before they were married, my Mum still lived at home and Dad was living in digs with a resident landlady.
Mum would travel up to visit Dad for the weekend, but she had to share the landlady's bed.

A case of "Not on my watch..."

seadragon

Our firstborn was conceived in the mother-in-law's bed on a visit.... Wish we had told her now as knowing her, she would have been delighted!

Our second-born was conceived in my parents' frame tent, which we'd borrowed for our summer holiday.
(They weren't there though).

Lathyrus3

Crossstitchfan

I was on your side! I had a go at Lathyrus3 for her criticism of you. I am sorry, but I can’t see what I have done wrong.

It’s regrettable that you have reverted to “having a go at me”.

Particularly because it was not even my post that you were referencing. Someone else entirely.
My post suggested that a solution might be to buy a comfortable bed for the guest room.

It does however show that you are returning to the hounding of me that I reported to HQ before. Obviously I will inform them that this has started all over again

I am sorry you think I was getting at you and singling you out. When I respond to posts, I respond to what is said, and don’t always register who the poster is before I reply. I certainly don’t have an issue with anyone, least of all you.
In this case, you suggested that Mrsbee377 should buy a new bed. I simply pointed out that you can’t assume she can afford to do that. I still stand by that and I would have said it to anyone who made the same comment. It was not directed at you personally and I am sorry if you took it that way.
When I respond to a post, I don’t look back and see if I have already disagreed with the person I am going to reply to, in this case, you. I just reply to each post in the way I feel at the time. If it happens to be more than once, it is not deliberate.
I promise you, I have nothing against you at all and would certainly not pick on you, but if/when I disagree with you, I will say so. That’s what happens on here and discussion is a welcome part. As I said, it is not personal but I am not going to say I agree with you if I don’t, just so your feelings are spared!
Report me by all means but I think you are being a little sensitive because I do not respond any differently to you than I would to any other poster, and they don’t seem to take umbrage at what I say! They take it in the spirit in which it is meant…..criticism sometimes, maybe, but never meant unkindly.

Our firstborn was conceived in the mother-in-law's bed on a visit.... Wish we had told her now as knowing her, she would have been delighted!

I always thought I was open-minded, but the thought of my in-laws (or, actually, anyone else) having sex in MY bed gives me the ick! I would find that quite offensive!

Mrsbee , I fully understand your feelings. I have to say that I have no problem with guests having sex in my house - but not in my bed! as you said
' it would creep me out" and I am most definitely not a prude!!
Many of the responses you have received unpleasant and yes ' rude '

V3ra

^This reminds me of my to-be mother in law, many moons ago, who used to put my husband and myself in separate bedrooms when we stayed in her house. She only put us together once we were actually married, several years later.^

My mother-in-law did the same.
It got worse though, because once we were married she put us in her and my father-in-law's double bed.
And to cap it all he walked in without knocking to get his suit out of the wardrobe for work the next morning, while we were still in bed 🙄
(Not that anything was going on!).

I'd have much preferred to be put in my husband's old twin-bedded room 😂

We were engaged, and living together in a one bedroom flat. FIL knew this perfectly well as he'd visited us there; but he said "Best not to mention it to MIL Then she can pretend she doesnt know". MIL was also pretending to "keep forgetting" we were engaged.

MIL would not allow us to sleep in the same room (let alone bed) in her house. One summer, she invited us to share a rented holiday house with her and FIL, in Cornwall; on condition we drove, and paid half the rent and all other expenses. We agreed, foolishly supposing this was an olive branch recognising us as a couple. Arrived to (3 bed ) holiday house and she briskly informed us we would be in separate rooms. DH in the single. The following day, SIL "unexpectedly" arrived "on the spur of the moment" ; clearly by arrangement with MIL . SIL cried because she had to share a room (and bed) with me; and she didn't contribute a penny.
The good news was that 5 could not fit in one car so we generously offered to let FIL, SIL and MIL go off together in it every daywhile we did our own thing. Mostly having a lot of afternoon sex in the double bed.

Norah

Allira

When they went out, my DH said I wasn’t myself and asked what was wrong. I told him what I heard.

That wasn't a kind thing to do.
Some men can be very squeamish about their parents having sex.
Now you've told him, he can't unknow that.

I'd imagine most know their parents enjoyed sex.

Mine made that clear in the "talks".

I know they probably know but they still think 'ugh'

Allira

^When they went out, my DH said I wasn’t myself and asked what was wrong. I told him what I heard.^

That wasn't a kind thing to do.
Some men can be very squeamish about their parents having sex.
Now you've told him, he can't unknow that.

I'd imagine most know their parents enjoyed sex.

Mine made that clear in the "talks".

This is a wing up but if it isn’t she shouldn’t have gone into their bedroom!

This thread is getting funnier with each post 🤣🤣🤣

When they went out, my DH said I wasn’t myself and asked what was wrong. I told him what I heard.

That wasn't a kind thing to do.
Some men can be very squeamish about their parents having sex.
Now you've told him, he can't unknow that.

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Mrsbee377

I don’t see an issue with people of older age having sex, not in the slightest. It’s just there’s a time and a place..!

They were in bed not on your kitchen worktop for goodness sake, you should not have gone to the bedroom as you had lent it to them. How would you have liked them coming in to yours? I understand they probably would not find you making love, but all the same. grin

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Mrsbee377

I’m 43.

Is that a typo Mrsbee377. If not you are very young and should be far better educated on what is normal and what is not. Now I understand why other people were extremely unhelpful and sarcastic on other sites, have you not started wondering if it is not you who is a bit 'unusual'

Mrsbee377

I don’t see an issue with people of older age having sex, not in the slightest. It’s just there’s a time and a place..!

They were in bed not on your kitchen worktop for goodness sake, you should not have gone to the bedroom as you had lent it to them. How would you have liked them coming in to yours? I understand they probably would not find you making love, but all the same. grin

Yes you're a prude.
Whatever next? Visitors not allowed to shit in your toilet?

Crossstitchfan

Lesley60

I think some of these posts are really rude to the OP, I think the in laws should have controlled themselves until they were in their own bed out of respect

Really??

It gets better and better, I feel so very sorry for all these married women who don't know what is normal in a marriage. What has controlling got to do with it, we are not talking about 17 years old here but mature women who have confidence enough to carry on leading a normal life wherever they are. Unbelievable

Reported

I’m 43.

Babs03

This must be a joke. Firstly even if a door was rattling I wouldn’t have ventured into the in-laws bedroom, and secondly who cares if guests in your house are having sex, after all both are way over the age of consent. And you have to change the bed linen anyway after guests have stayed so your bed would be fine for you and your husband to sleep in again.

I completely agree

After our dear Truro MP David Penhaligon died his widow remarried and went to live in Plymouth. I met her at a fete in Truro one day and she mentioned that she must leave early because they had to drive back to Plymouth. She explained that the alternative would be staying with her parents. She said that even as a married woman in her 40s she couldn't possibly sleep in a bed with her husband under her parents' roof! I think we slept and probably had sex in my daughter's house - but not in their bed, and they stayed with us a couple of times during house renovations if anything happened it was very quiet.