Good morning all,
I want to be open and say that I am not a gran, however I have previously been a member of another similar type of forum, and found some of the members there to be extremely sarcastic and unhelpful so I have taken the decision to register here in the hope that I may find more measured/sensible responses! However all opinions and outlooks are welcome .. please be kind though as I’m a little upset.
For context, I’m in my early 40’s and my in-laws mentioned here are in their early 70’s.
I need to know if I’m being a prude, I truly don’t think I am. I’ve never thought of myself as one. But, I feel so uncomfortable in my own home!!
My in-laws are currently staying with us. They arrived yesterday - Friday- and will be here until Wednesday. We’ve never been in a position to have them stay over with us until now, but we’ve moved house this year and we have the room at last. Before we moved, they would stay in a local hotel when visiting us. We’re five hours drive apart, so visits tend to be for a few days at a time.
I was more than happy to have them stay here since we now have a spare room, and we get (got!?) on well. I am now regretting agreeing to it!!
We’ve let them stay in our main bedroom, as the bed is much nicer than our spare one, and there’s an ensuite.
The ensuite door is annoying, and rattles when closed, even with the tiniest bit of wind. It also swings shut, and then rattles (we need to sort it out). So, we have a door stop in place to mitigate this.
Last night, I woke up in the middle of the night, to hear the ensuite door rattling. I tried to ignore it but couldn’t, so I decided to, very quietly, go in to the main bedroom where my in-laws were sleeping, to put the doorstop back into place, assuming they’d moved it for some reason. You don’t need to go into the main part of the bedroom to access the ensuite, as it is right by the door when you go in the room, so I figured if I was quiet, I’d be able to do this without disturbing them.
I quietly entered the bedroom (they had left the bedroom door ajar) and instantly, there was no mistake what I could hear - my in-laws were having sex. In mine and my husband’s bed. In our home. I quickly left the room.. obviously. They weren’t being loud, but there was absolutely no mistaking what they were doing, I don’t need to go into more detail.
In my 14 years of marriage to my DH, and the countless times we have stayed with my in-laws, we have never once even considered that it would be appropriate to be intimate together in their house. And now they’ve done this in ours. I feel so uncomfortable with this.
This morning, they went out for breakfast .. just as well, because I felt absolutely mortified and awkward when they came downstairs . They asked DH and I if we wanted to come, but I made up an excuse about feeling unwell. When they went out, my DH said I wasn’t myself and asked what was wrong. I told him what I heard. At first he thought I was joking, but when I eventually got him to believe me, he also could not believe they had done this. He isn’t planning to say anything to them about it, and nor am I …I don’t think. I’m not good with awkward situations.. but I do feel very grossed out.
Am I being a complete prude here or have they pushed a boundary?!
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