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not understanding what's being said on phone...

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boheminan Tue 16-Sept-25 11:31:03

This morning I've had two dealings using my BT landline.

Firstly. A call from a woman who was talking so fast that I couldn't catch what she was saying as she had a very strong foreign accent. I asked her to slow down but she just started shouting at me, I panicked and put the phone down. I looked up the number she was calling from and found it was my GP surgery. Second call was to BT engineer and the same thing happened, I couldn't understand what he was saying and after him shouting at me, panicked and put the phone down.

I feel so anxious about this as I don't want anyone to think that my response is racist but I get so panicked so often now that more and more conversations over the phone are being cut off by me because I cannot understand what's being said.

Does anyone else have this problem? and if so, how do you cope with it?

Stillness Mon 22-Sept-25 17:24:27

It’s not your fault. It’s hard to understand some foreign accents. I would say I’m sorry but i can’t understand what you’re saying. Can you speak slowly and more clearly please. If need be, repeat back to them what they’ve said. If they make a thing of it, say it’s your accent it’s hard for me to understand you. I’ve had the same issue, They must realise what you mean…don’t be put off.

Deedaa Thu 25-Sept-25 00:09:35

I just keep asking them to repeat everything very slowly. If it's something important I can go on doing this for ages.If it turns out to be nothing I hang up. It isn't just foreign accents either. There are quite a few British ones I have problems with. With the ones who rattle away ay 100 miles an hour I let them say several sentences before I ask them to repeat the whole lot. This usually encourages them to slow down.

Witzend Fri 26-Sept-25 12:44:52

I used to get this a lot when I worked in a library - people phoning for whatever reason, mumbling and gabbling at the same time. The effect was exacerbated - sometimes a lot - by any strong foreign accent. Especially when they were reeling off their long membership number at a mega-gabble!

I just used to ask them to slow down and speak clearly.
There would often obviously be eye-rolls on the other end - they evidently thought I must be exceedingly stupid - but that didn’t bother me.

Boz Fri 26-Sept-25 13:32:32

Overseas call centres are a nightmare.
I recently had a Waitrose delivery problem on route to holiday.
A guy from Asia had to sort it out for me. Very well, I should say but what a palaver it all is.
I reckon they use C.C. as a ploy to stop too many, often nuisance, calls.