Thank you for your sound advice

Well done for acting on the advice. All too often FOG (dear, obligation, guilt) keeps us stuck in toxic family relationships.

Truffle, you did the right thing. I am glad to hear your son is making progress and wish him well. Take care of yourself.

Thank you all.
My son is doing ok. It is cancer but he is still fighting and the hospital are pleased with his progress upto now so fingers crossed.

MT62

Have you not heard from them since?

That is a shame.
‘What goes round comes round’, maybe one day they will need you again.
Personally I wouldn’t make myself available as they sound really selfish.

It's lovely when an OP returns with an update on the outcome. Especially nice when advice has been taken and appreciated.
I hope your son is much better now.
Look after yourself. Best wishes.

Truffle43 - I hope your son is better.
You too Loopylindy- hope you have recovered well.

Truffle
There’s a very true saying: it’s only the squeaky wheel that gets the oil.

MT62
No nothing whatsoever.

Amazing how others can cause so much stress in your life. Really good your action has worked out well for you.

Loopylindy

Hopefully not to them!!
And, hopefully, you have a friend or two who are reliable and kind and more deserving. I hope so.
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We live less than 2miles from sibling and other relatives, yet we've seen less of them since living here than when we visited. In the last few months I've had a heart attack, fractured vertebra and diagnosed with heart failure. In that time I've seen one relative no more than 5 times, one 3 times and one not at all.
We've never mentioned this to the family, but we have no children, so I wonder if they wonder where our estate will go...

It is very sad. You did all this for them and they took it for granted and did not make any return when you had need of support. You asked for very little after all. Just a kind message would have been enough for you. Unfortunately it is not a rare thing. I am so sorry about your son. I hope he is better now.

Have you not heard from them since?

I have done the same! Better for your health!

I'm glad it has worked out well for you, any decrease in stress can only be good.

I was also in a similar situation Truffle and asked for GN's opinions when my brother who'd ceased contact with me, asked our cousin a week or so before Christmas to pass on his details so I could contact him if I wanted too.

I'd already decided against and the support I received here confirmed that I'd done the right thing and took away any sense of guilt or regret.

I'm so pleased that the decision you took has been the right one for you .

I am so glad to hear this having problems with a younger brother myself. Won’t go into it now but sounds similar to your case. Since my DH had a massive stroke I had to put our needs first.
Sorry your younger siblings are like this but you have made the right call, and glad advice given on here helped you make it.

It’s a sad situation for you, but yes, sometimes you do just have to concentrate on your own health and sanity.😃