Is my neighbour mean? Opinions please.

You need to change your password ASAP. If you ever want to share a smidgen of internet, let her have guest access for a short time
She could get a good deal on a sim, and tether whatever devices she has to that. My mobile SIM gives me 60gb a month, I mostly use the Internet on there for holidays or days out and it works fine

When you do change the password, see if she asks about it, you can honestly say that something must have changed, which is true, and you can't work out how to restore her access. You'll see how you get on just using your mobile data, which might work out cheaper for you, and give up the isp what gives you broadband, if that works ok, maybe she could do that herself.
As for the green bin, see how things go, and if she fusses, you can just get your own, or offer to share the cost with her (and at the slightest problem just get your own)
As for getting her things without asking. Just do what she does to you, let her know about special offers, and leave it up to her.
If it's an online offer, you could ask if she'd like to add it to an order you are putting in, and she can pay you for it. If it's something in town, you may not be going to that shop for a while, or you won't have room in your shopping trolley to bring it home (only if she asks obviously)
At any time you can decide to do more.
If she winges you'll know she was just being mean. If ever someone does me a favour, is be grateful even if they had to stop doing it for any reason

Based on opening post OP you seem to be allowing your neighbour, to piggyback on to your internet (over which you do have control whether you live in adjoining terraced houses or flats) and in exchange you use her green bin.
But other than that your sole complaint is that you buy things unasked for her when you go shopping and she merely tells you where they are on special offer.
Have I got that right?
What’s mean in any of this?
Personally I might feel patronised if a (younger) neighbour bought me unsolicited items.
But I wonder is she housebound? Disabled?
You asked for opinions - I see nothing “mean” in her behaviour.
What is at issue?

How would a bank know who is using an internet connection?

You obviously don't need a whole green bin each so you could simply share the cost of it and take turns having it on your property and putting it out. Fair to both.
Stop sharing Internet (say "sorry but your bank will no longer permit")
Tell her about bargains in shops - don't buy them for her.
Gransnetters will be pleased, your daughter will be pleased, and your neighbour should have no cause to fall out with you, so you should also be pleased- "simples!"

WithNobsOnIt

You should never let anybody piggy back onto your Internet RouterWifi

You are comprising the security of your connection. It terms of privacy and people hacking in to all off your personal details on your computer and mobile phone if you use it on the Wifi

Reset the Wifi password pronto but don't tell your neighbour.

If she says anything just pretend it's not working properly and you don't know how to fix it.

As for your grass cuttings. Can't you give them to a local allotment to put on a company heap?

Hope you get this sorted.

Can you (or anyone) please explain to me in simple terms how letting someone outside of your household use your wifi is more dangerous as regards privacy and online safety than letting a friend or adult child use it when staying with you, or people sharing wifi in a hotel or holiday home? How does the router know who is who and/or their relationship to the bill-payer?

How, again in simple terms, please, (preferably not copied from AI) would the neighbour get access to personal details?

How is it that if, say, I am in a waiting room using hospital wifi I can’t piggyback on the person next to me’s medical details when they are also online? I haven’t tried doing so, but I just can’t see how it is possible without high level knowledge that this neighbour seems unlikely to possess (and I certainly don’t).

Not wanting to be taken advantage of is a different matter, and I do understand that, but not the access to bank accounts and so on. It just doesn’t stack up.

I can understand not wanting to pay her bill if she is stingy. I can also understand that not everyone brings everything down to money, and it doesn’t cost more to have her use your wifi - that’s a personality thing - but what is the security risk?

O.M.G. i am speechless for once! Are we sure this is a real post?🤔

Listen to your daughter!

valdavi

Actually I can see some sense in sharing an internet connection & sharing a green bin if neither of you is using enough bandwidth to compromise your wi-fi strength, and neither of you would fill a green bin on your own. Our green bin subs were £70 this year.

I know there are security issues, but if you know her well enough to know she's extremely unlikely to be trolling or running a scam from your wi-fi, I don't think its easy to steal data from you by sharing a wi-fi connection. After all it happens in hospitals and in business hotels where confidentiality is very important.

We share our garden bin with our neighbour £20 each

You should never let anybody piggy back onto your Internet RouterWifi

You are comprising the security of your connection. It terms of privacy and people hacking in to all off your personal details on your computer and mobile phone if you use it on the Wifi

Reset the Wifi password pronto but don't tell your neighbour.

If she says anything just pretend it's not working properly and you don't know how to fix it.

As for your grass cuttings. Can't you give them to a local allotment to put on a company heap?

Hope you get this sorted.

You aren't a wimp, you seem to have a good reciprocal arrangement. I'm all for tolerating the weirdness of neighbours if you can rub along well enough. Personally, I'd perhaps not shop for her but the rest of it seems worth the compromise. If you personally feel ok with the way it pans out, ignore other people's comments and just carry on as you are. The wealth difference probably passes her by, she's just the way she is because that's her way.

Lemonjam the council charge to pick up garden waste. Ours are brown and we pay for them both to be collected every two weeks.
We could have 20 of our own bins lined up for collection. They wouldn’t be picked up.

Strange behaviour.

This exact question has been asked before

LemonJam

Desdemona: She does let me use her green bin for garden waste. The council have said it is fine for neighbours to share as long as somebody pays. She has got a tablet and piggybacks my internet (which I have no control over as we live in adjoining terraces, so I feel like she gets recompense for the green bin.)

But you both pay council tax? If so it's easy just to buy your own green bin if your council is unwilling to provide you with one. I would never tolerate another household piggybacking my internet- for evident cyber security reasons.

Most councils have an extra charge for green waste collection these days.

Do you know how to change your internet password? If so do it immediately. If not ring your provider and ask them to talk you through it.

So many reasons outlined by the previous posts why you should never ever share your broadband with anyone outside of your own household.

She’s taking advantage of you. Relationships should go both ways, but this sounds completely one-sided. I’ve had neighbors like this before. Stop buying her things and stop being so available when she wants a favor.

I think that I'd get my own green bin .

In the past my neighbour has been fantastically kind to my father.

But she seems to forget that there were times when he was fed up listening to her endlessly complaining about her family.
I've gone out with her and realise that she expects me to treat her each time .
I've also bought her endless Get Well cards and gifts , plants for her garden and done a lot of gardening for her.
I thoroughly dislike her meaness with money.
It's like an obsession .
I'm increasingly unwell since the Autumn and she's found a new friend and made it so obvious.
It has really upset and depressed me,but the signs were there and I ignored them .

Your neighbour 'phones you or shouts at you over the fence when she wants something? Is this a mistress and servant relationship?

How do you know she 'has a bit more money' than yourself? There is such a thing as 'keeping up appearances' and 'nice net curtains at the windows but nothing on the table'.

It could be just a sham.

But she seems to definitely have the whip hand.

I’m not saying that I would share my wifi way neighbour, particularly one I didn’t much like, but I still don’t think that someone accessing the internet via your account can access your files or bank account. As I said earlier if anyone can explain how that would work I am very willing to listen, but nobody has done so.

I know for sure that when my children stay here, both they and their partners use our wifi and we can’t access one another’s information. It is not remotely the same as giving them access to your devices.

As win says, though, people will believe what they like. I wouldn’t rely on Reddit, personally, but each to her own.

Hmmmm... so who do I think is correct? Doodledog or win? I think I'd rather err on the side of caution and follow win's advice; cyber risks aren't worth taking.

Change your password, stop buying her gifts, stop responding to the summoning and stop being a wimp. People will only treat you badly if you allow them too. Give your generosity on YOUR terms to someone who appreciates it.

This is what AI says, people always think they know best, read it and make up your own mind, personally I would never consider sharing with a neighbour regardless how well I knew them.

Sharing Wi-Fi with a neighbour is generally not recommended due to significant security, legal, and performance risks, though it can be done safely with a dedicated guest network. Risks include liability for their illegal activity, potential access to your personal files, and reduced internet speeds.

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Key Risks and Considerations:
Legal Liability: You are responsible for all activity on your internet connection. If a neighbor downloads illegal content, you may be held liable.
Security Vulnerabilities: A shared network allows them to potentially access your private files, smart devices, and printers.
Malware Spread: If your neighbor’s computer is infected, that malware could spread to your devices.
Bandwidth Overload: Sharing can lead to slower internet speeds for your own devices.
Violation of Terms: Many ISPs (Internet Service Providers) prohibit sharing your subscription outside your home.
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How to Share Safely (If absolutely necessary):
Create a Guest Network: Almost all modern routers allow you to set up a separate "guest" network. This keeps your main devices, files, and personal devices secure and separated from your neighbor.
Use a Unique Password: Make sure the guest network has a different, strong password, not the same one you use for your main network.
Set Data Caps: Use router settings to limit their usage so your internet speed remains stable.
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If you do not know the neighbor extremely well, it is safest to not share your main Wi-Fi network.

A pleasant guy has just moved next door. He asked if we could share wi-if and pay 50% each. I politely declined because I prefer to be independent and because of safety too.

I’m not sure why you think your neighbour is mean. You buy her things she hasn’t asked for. She willingly shares her green bin with you. Many people, as shown by responses, would not like being given household items although she does tell you where she’s seen your favourite items on offer, which is useful- and not overstepping any boundaries. I don’t see anything mean there. Presumably you would have internet access whether she shared it or not, just as she would probably have a green bin. So your gripe seems to be that she asks for favours but is unwilling to reciprocate. I suppose it depends what these ‘favours’ are. Only you know if she is taking advantage of you. If so, just say no.

This is just not true. Please do not believe nonsense like this. There are people who either believe they are more knowledgeable than everyone else or who want you to think they are.

I am not saying that sharing wifi is always a good thing, but it is not going to lead to Bad Things as a matter of course.