Grandparents name issues

It’s nothing to do with what you are called or not called, in my opinion OP, it’s to do with a lack of respect from another adult when you have made it clear that you don’t like it! It’s patronising & I totally understand why you are upset. Is there a paternal grandfather? Could you speak to him about it maybe?

Luckygirl3

There are good reasons to go with the flow, top of which for me is that no-one should ever use a child as a pawn in a dispute between adults.

Let it wash by for your sake and theirs.

Indeed. Nothing good will come from argument about names.

In the grand scheme of things this is no big deal - however the big deal is you dont like it and paternal GP should respect that!

If you don't like it then the paternal grandmother should respect that. Why would she do this!? If she is Nanna and you are Gran and Grandad there is no reason for your first names to be tagged on . Its non of her business how your GC address you and your husband. You are justified in being angry about this! Your daughter doesn't see a problem- she is more likely trying to keep the peace and I understand that. Your SILs mother is being difficult for no reason.
She has not listened to you , would your husband be able to take her to one side and make it clear how you feel? How your GC address you is your decision and most certainly not hers! Good luck.

I’d never even heard the use of the word nanny for a grandmother until I worked in Liverpool. Nanny was definitely a nursemaid to me, still is.

My own grandparents were granny and grandpa, grandfather and grandma.

When my first grandchild was born, the other grandmother asked me if I’d rather be granny or grandma. I chose Grandma, because I had happy memories of my own grandma, so the other one is Granny. She insisted on giving me first choice. Nobody mentioned nannies.

Sago

Wind up?

Really? How unkind!

I know where OP is coming from. I wanted to be Granny but so did DiL's stepmother. She is now Granny (name) and I am just Granny. My mum was Granny and my children loved her.

Call her Ba-nanna

Of course, the children may decide for themselves a name for their nan/gran.
Gangan, noony, nongy...

I've been told (on here) that a nanny denotes a paid mothers' help.

My Granny was from Lancashire. My experience is Nan or Nannie or Nana is more used in the South of England.

We live in the South, but I’ll always be Granny.

I always had a Granny and Grampa (maternal) and Grandma and Grandad (paternal)

We are Granny and Grampa.

I wouldn’t be to fussed what small children call us.

aggie

Use her name tacked on to Nanna ? See how she likes it

Absolutely!

When my first grandchild was born my mother and mother-in-law were still alive, and both called grandma. I thought three with the same name/title would be too much.

My own paternal grandmother had been Granny so I decided to revive that, much to my daughter's surprise!
I love being Granny, and locally others seem to be grandma or more usually nan/nanny so I'm pleased with my choice.
My daughter was happy to go along with it when I explained my reasons.

Maggiemaybe

I’m just amazed that a thread about grandparent names has got this far without someone sniffing that nanny/nanna is a goat or a paid employee. Must be a first.

My own grandmother was determined not to be called ‘Nana’ until I started chuntering nananana and claimed I was talking to her . She was ‘Nana first name’ to generations of children from that day on. Nobody ever confused her with a goat!

Maggiemaybe

I’m just amazed that a thread about grandparent names has got this far without someone sniffing that nanny/nanna is a goat or a paid employee. Must be a first.

My grandmother used to respond to people who described her as my 'Nan', 'or 'Nanna' by telling them she was my Grandma not an old goat.

I think there is probably a regional variation in what children call their grandparents, or was in the past, I am less sure now

I’m with the OP -names matter and it’s completely upto her and her husband what they want to be called unless they’d chosen identical ones to the other grandparents. But regardless, it should be sorted out between the adults and the other grandmother shouldn’t be doing what she is in front of the grandchildren. It’s actually quite passive aggressive behaviour imo

I’m just amazed that a thread about grandparent names has got this far without someone sniffing that nanny/nanna is a goat or a paid employee. Must be a first.

There are good reasons to go with the flow, top of which for me is that no-one should ever use a child as a pawn in a dispute between adults.

Let it wash by for your sake and theirs.

We had a Gran and Grampa and a Granny and Grandad for our children. Everybody happy!

Wind up?

Is wonder if it will eventually get dropped our surname added to granny and grandad was such a mouthful everyone eventually gave up.

Luckygirl3

Happy healthy GC. Honestly just park this and enjoy them. Life is just too short.

Absolutely. Seems to be trying to cause a problem, where none exists.

My mum wanted to be Nana but DS1, the eldest grandchild, called her Anna so that's what all the grandchildren called her. She was christened Alice but always called Babs by her large family. Confusing unless you knew.

NotSpaghetti

The point is though that Bunnny doesn't like it and has asked it to stop.

This.

Nothing to do with being grateful to have GC, how other families are estranged, and how often you see them etc etc.

It’s not up to the other GP what you are called.

I agree, start calling her ‘Nanna Sue’ or whatever her name is, see what she thinks to that.

And gently remind the GC how you like to be addressed.

I am the opposite to you Kitty I didn’t want to be Grandma or granny I wanted to be Nan or Nanny but had they chosen to call me Grandma or granny I d have got used to it without a thought