Grandparents name issues

My grandchildren call me Granny * with my first name tacked on. Nice and personal I think so I love it.

Yes if I am alone with them like MOnica it's just Grandma.

Buunny
If it's just you alone with them do they still actually say Grandma x or just Grandma?

I actually quite like my first name being used, come to think of it. It feels sort of more me than an abstract "Grandma"

I think one thing a lot of us have to face - is that DiL's often make these decisions more than our DS's .......and thats just the way of things?

Well my grandchildren have 5 grandparents as I divorced my husband (we get one really well now so no tensions)

My Ex is "Pops" which he loves, I am Grandma Wyllow, Pops, partner is just her first name.

DiL - (who makes these crucial decisions) Mum and Dad are Grandma and Grandad, but that fine with me, as they see them a lot more often. Yes the family are closer to them, but they don't love me any the less?

OP I totally get why you’re upset . It’s not up to her to name you. You should do the same thing back to her . Ask DGC have they been to see nanny Susan this week ?
When my eldest grandson was small he called his maternal grandmother round nanny and me triangle nanny . It took us months to learn that it was because of the shape of the drives in front of our houses 😂.
My Welsh DGC referred to us as nain Trixie and nain bob , after our dogs 😂.

I don't understand why this is such an issue for you Bunny maybe you are getting things a bit out of proportion. It's lovely that your grandchildren have two sets of grandparents to love them. I read so many posts on here about families being estranged it's good to hear of families who are together. Just ignore the name issue and enjoy time with your family, grandchildren grow up so quickly.

Happy healthy GC. Honestly just park this and enjoy them. Life is just too short.

It may not seem like a big issue to others but it is to you and your DH so the other grandma and others in the family should respect your preferences, it isn’t hard to do, so they should just do it.

Bunnny try making a joke of it with the children instead of correcting them.
For example if they call you Granny Bunnny rather than just Granny, call them Granddaughter Polly or Grandson Tommy.
When they say, "Hey I'm just Polly!" (Or Tommy) you can say, "Yes and I'm just Granny," and have a laugh about it with them.
Hopefully 😁

What were you wanting to be called?

I and my companion grandmother are both known to our grand children as Grandma M0nica and Grandma Susan. When we are all together DGC call us just Grandma, unless the name is needed to make it clear which grandmother is being addressed.

I also think that grandparents should choose, but if both want to be called the same thing, there has to be a way to differentiate. In that case, that differentiation should be up to the individuals too. As a child we had a Granny and a Nana, and grandfathers were Grandad Firstname and Grandad Surname, oddly. I'd never considered that until now. Children just accept what they are told, usually.

I don't think it's disrespectful either way, other than that the other grandmother isn't listening to the OP when she asks for her wishes to be respected. Also, if surnames are used, it is the father's parents who usually have the same name as the grandchildren, which could be made into an issue if the maternal ones were insecure enough.

When the children are older you could gently correct them, though. 'No, silly, I'm Granny Smith, aren't I?' would do it (better if your actual name doesn't make you sound like an apple though )

It's a bit annoying to be assigned a name, but I think it's best to let it go. Or perhaps say you'd like to be e.g. GrannyP or whatever your first name is.

Use her name tacked on to Nanna ? See how she likes it

I think the OP is perfectly entitled to be known by whatever term they like and the others should respect that. However, I can see how first names could be seen as okay by some. Uncles and aunts are usually first name terms - Uncle Jim, Aunty Joan, for example. But that didn't apply to grandparents in our house. It was grandma or grandad followed by surname.

Paternal! I'm sure.

What's a parental grandparent then???

Probably meant parental!

What is a partial grandmother?