Swearing

Would your daughter think it funny if her daughter swore in public ?
As a social worker I remember a young mum telling me her 18 month old was out of control as she was f ing snd blinding in Asda.
I asked where her child had heard that language snd mum confirmed it was her.
I felt so very sorry for the child who had a mum who had written her off by innocently repeating what she had learned from her mother.

Your daughter is making life difficult for her daughter. The child won't understand when she is at school why her words aren't acceptable.

My eldest DD is very sweary. I’ve winced and often berated her for swearing in front of DGS. Her response is that he knows he’s not to use adult words.

Once when he was at my house a recessed lightbulb exploded and fell onto the kitchen floor with its housing, leaving wires dangling through the ceiling. DGS was about 5. He looked at the mess in horror and said, “I think my mummy would have said an adult word”.

My kids were in their 30s before they ever heard me curse, but primary school children seem to have the F word as a normal part of their vocabulary now.

In some families using the f word is entirely normal ;

It is with my neighbours .
The mother complains about her daughter being aggressive ,loud mouthed and swearing - exactly what she's taught her to do .

Walking up the High Street - I heard a mother calling her toddler a f-----g little
c--t .
People stopped and stared .

The mother's friends looked uncomfortable and told her stop.

She continued ...

I often think of that little girl and the terrible start that's she's had in life .

DGS was about 5. He looked at the mess in horror and said, “I think my mummy would have said an adult word”.

Priceless! 🤣
What a little sweetheart 🥰

Suzieque66

My Daughter swears at her daughter , using the F word ...and now her daughter swears back at her ! Daughter thinks its funny / normal .. What !!!!

"How to blight your child 's future".

Just wait until the child addresses her teacher that way. Or her little friends at nursery.

No parents should be nipping that in the bud soon as it starts.
Then again some parents talk that routinely in front of their kids.

AGAA4

Your daughter is making life difficult for her daughter. The child won't understand when she is at school why her words aren't acceptable.

Changed days.

1970; at work the morning staffroom was agog that someone had graffiti'd the f word on the playground wall. The caretaker had not been able to obliterate it before the children saw it.

Elderly spinster colleague asked what the word meant. She'd never heard of it.

She was not joking.

Am afraid some use the F word in innocuous conversations, not as a swear word at all. It just peppers their everyday vocabulary. Cannot understand it.
I can’t remember hearing it at all growing up and very rarely as a young adult. ‘Bloody hell’ was as far as my old dad would go and he’d get told off by my mum who I can safely say never swore. Her go-to phrase if she was harassed would be ‘oh my giddy aunt!’
I think it is just so widely used today that the younger generation use it without batting an eye. But it is still a form of verbal abuse when levelled at someone else in anger and should never be used around children.

butterandjam

AGAA4

Your daughter is making life difficult for her daughter. The child won't understand when she is at school why her words aren't acceptable.

Changed days.

1970; at work the morning staffroom was agog that someone had graffiti'd the f word on the playground wall. The caretaker had not been able to obliterate it before the children saw it.

Elderly spinster colleague asked what the word meant. She'd never heard of it.

She was not joking.

Goodness, when was that?
I didn’t hear the word until I was 11, and that was in the very early 60s, from a schoolfriend at a nice, all-girls grammar school!

At around the same time someone else told me what it meant. It was a relief to me to find out, since when a bit younger I’d been very puzzled as to why a neighbour’s son was the absolute spit of his dad. How could that be, when the baby grew inside its mother?

I asked my mother, but she wouldn’t tell me! Presumably far too embarrassed.

The first time I was aware of the word was when I read Lady Chatterley at 19 or so. I’d never heard anyone use it, and couldn’t really see why it was so shocking. Who decides which words are swear words?

I had civilised parents who didn’t swear, and went to an all-girls private school from the age of seven. I don’t remember hearing anyone swear at university, either

i was in my 20s (1960s) when I first heard it and certainly didn’t hear it very often.