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Do you agree with me or parent and child?

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WelshPoppy Thu 02-Jul-26 08:52:28

Arranged a coach trip for a group of youngsters aged 9 to 11. Pre information said that car sick children should take medication/wear a wristband, etc, prior to departure. Little Gerty's (not real name) mother informs me while waiting to get on coach, that wristbands don't work and that Gerty had chosen not to take medication. Mother told me she feels it's important that Gerty has a choice. Half an hour into one hour trip, Gerty projectile vomits over the child in front, the child beside her, the seat and floor of the coach and herself. When I go to try and sort things out, Gerty giggles and tells me "that always happens when I choose to not take the tablet". Luckily we limited food and drink intake to essential only (no sweets/fizzy drinks) and got home unscathed, although Gerty did vomit after getting off the coach. In future, should I insist that Gerty receives medication as a proviso for being allowed on the coach or let mum allow Gerty to choose, putting other children in an uncomfortable situation?

Nannee49 Sat 04-Jul-26 12:32:05

Agree with all the posts but am I being too cynical in warning be prepared for local press to be contacted and a pic of Gerty and Gerty's mum published with that peculiar mix of outrage, thwarted entitlement, bewilderment and, somehow, sadness at their plight.

pigsmayfly. Sat 04-Jul-26 21:14:09

Getty needs to sit at the front of the coach with a bucket and her Mum in future if her choice is not to take medication. Sharing bodily fluids with others in this day and age is not acceptable. So right at the front with a bucket and her Mum.

Whiff Sun 05-Jul-26 06:49:35

When I was a child and even could happen in my early 20's I got bus and car sick. There wasn't tablets when a child. My mom took lot of plastic bags with us on the bus . And I sat with open one ready incase I was sick. If I was mom had perfume with her so to cover the smell of vomit 🤢 and not upset other passengers. Dad and my husband had plastic bags in the glove box. But at least could stop the car when I felt sick.
On school trips I sat at the front of the coach with plastic bags and perfume. If it was a long trip I didn't go .

On car ferries when we had children I always took sea sickness tablets.

If the child won't take anti sickness tablets then she doesn't go. I would have thought the parents of the children she was sick on would insist on her doing so or she couldn't go. I know if it happened when my children where at school I would have done that.

PaperMonster2 Sun 05-Jul-26 09:12:43

The perfume smell mingled with vomit smell would have made me vomit!

NotSpaghetti Sun 05-Jul-26 09:43:53

Nannee49
grin

Whiff Sun 05-Jul-26 17:43:35

Have you smell some of the perfumes people wear today they stink. There were no aerosols to disguise and neutralise smells in those days I am 68.

PaperMonster2 Sun 05-Jul-26 19:44:00

I think perfumes smell just as good or bad nowadays as they always did. It’s the combination of two smells competing with each other that sets me off. The last thing I’d do with vomit is try to cover up the smell with something scented, especially in a confined space. Last time I dealt with vomit on a coach (two hours into a 12 hour journey) I had to sit away from where it had happened as the girl’s friends sprayed some perfume. I am not good with smells in confined spaces - I even had to move away from some girls in class last week as they’d sprayed deodorant.

Cossy Sun 05-Jul-26 20:09:45

No meds, no trip! I actually think that parents who allow their 9 year old children to make their own decisions about absolutely everything and are deluded! Let them make decisions about what to wear, what to eat or how to wear their hair, but not about big important things like travel sickness pills when the child is clearly very travel sick!

Cossy Sun 05-Jul-26 20:11:19

eazybee

If it is a youth organisation you are not compelled to take her on any future trips.
It is most unpleasant for other passengers if someone has vomited: the smell lingers and can make others feel ill, not to mention the damage caused to upholstery and carpet in the vehicle.

Well said!!

JaneJudge Sun 05-Jul-26 20:12:26

i agree with you