Sorry posted too soon
Because they probably are AI
Because they probably are
I am constantly getting advice from my DDs about a better diet, more supplements, and how to cut down on sugars and salt.
They know I get a bit cheesed off with it so generally they start a sentence
with ‘this comes from a place of love…..’
Tbh our diet is ultra healthy compared to most people we know but my DDs are vegetarians and cover everything with grains so hey ho.
The younger generation like to think they invented everything.
I'm not sure of the context either. The young bloke gave a reminder about chewing food or the amount going into his mouth? That is generally good advice as we age as our swallowing muscles sure don't work as well as they do. I notice it myself so wouldn't mind someone saying that to me.
What is he eating?
Maybe he should have a specific diet?
I had assumed it was a professional who said this.
Maybe I'm misunderstanding here.
Being a professional chef does not necessarily mean you apply your knowledge to your own habits. Im thinking of chefs who maybe overweight, alcoholics even - not suggesting this is your DF, but it doesn't necessarily follow that those who have the expertise put it into practice themselves.
Why do these posts always read like AI wrote them?
I think I know the scene. I feel the same about visits to the GP surgery for the long term condition check when the HCA lectures me about eating healthily when she is at least 4 stone overweight and takes no account of my weight loss journey, my struggles with depression or my background as a highly qualified nurse. I just smile, probably a rictus smile and say I was a nurse.
You do sound dramatic or over invested in the importance of a passi g comment.
Without any context at all it's hard to comment further.
NoraHayes
to Jaxjacky
Letting it wash over you is one way to handle it. But I'd argue that's exactly how it becomes normal. Because everyone lets it wash over them. And then one day you look around and realise an entire generation has been quietly absorbing things they should never have had to absorb in the first place.
Or an entire generation has been too polite to tell some people to mind their own business, and has pointed out that this generation taught them to use a knife and fork!
(Not to mention potty training. )
Usedtobeblonde
Know as how to teach your Grandmother to suck eggs.
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I think it was patronising to tell your dad what he should be eating, especially given the circumstances. That is, unless it was a health professional with good reason to give advice.
Nonetheless, if your dad hadn't said it, I would have - simply pointed out that he was a professional chef.
to Jaxjacky
Letting it wash over you is one way to handle it. But I'd argue that's exactly how it becomes normal. Because everyone lets it wash over them. And then one day you look around and realise an entire generation has been quietly absorbing things they should never have had to absorb in the first place.
To Marg75
I'm not sure the way he dealt with it is best though. I understand why he did it. But I sometimes wonder if the quiet dignity of saying nothing is exactly what makes people think it's acceptable to keep doing it.
I’d just let it wash over me, sounds like the person commenting didn’t know his background and was well meaning.
I’d have said thank you like your Dad and moved on.
It sounds as though you love and admire your Dad very much and I don't think you are being dramatic. The way he dealt with it is best though because he has the memories that the young have yet to experience.
Known !
Know as how to teach your Grandmother to suck eggs.
My dad was a professional chef for forty years.
Not a hobby cook. Not someone who followed recipes on weekends. A professional. Someone who fed hundreds of people, who could taste a sauce and know in thirty seconds exactly what it needed, who understood food the way most people understand their own name.
Last week someone told him he should be eating more carefully at his age. Since when does being old prevent certain privilege
I looked at my dad and watched his face. That specific stillness that happens when someone who has spent a lifetime building something real is told that perhaps they need a little guidance now.
He just smiled. Said thank you. And said nothing else.
And I wanted to say everything he didn't. Because what I've known about my dad. He was getting up before anyone else was awake and doing things properly when the person giving him advice was still in school. He has forgotten more about feeding people well than most people giving him guidance have had the chance to learn yet.
He is not confused. He is not struggling. I've never seen him as a problem that needs solving by someone younger with better information.
He is someone who earned the right to be asked — not advised. My siblings think am being dramatic.
I don't think the people who do this mean any harm. I genuinely don't.
But I wonder sometimes if you feel it. If you recognise that specific smile. The one that absorbs something rather than causes a scene. The one that has been practised so long it looks like patience but is actually something else entirely. I wonder what you figured out through sixty years of doing it for real — that no amount of well meaning advice from anyone younger could have taught you and how you handle similar situations
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