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Desdemona Wed 08-Jul-26 20:28:15

I have a cat. She is well fed and looked after and likes to go for a little wander about in the area most days.

I am also on a number of local Internet groups, Facebook groups etc. Every day there are numerous people posting that they have had a cat appear in their garden, who does the cat belong to, is it ok etc. Usually the post appears with a picture of a perfectly healthy cat.

The replies range from taking them to the local vet for a chip check, ringing the RSPCA, paper collars on the cat, etc.

Surely if a healthy cat appears in a garden they should be left alone to wander through? There never used to be this fuss around cats, they wander around don't they?

I can understand if a cat appears ill in some way, obviously.

Your thoughts?

Rocketstop2 Thu 09-Jul-26 16:11:01

Gracey

Our beloved cat died a few years ago and we miss having a cat around the house.

Mr G was never a cat man until we met, some 20+ yrs ago. In fact he thought he didn't like cats. I wasn't having any of that. My two moggies ( long gone, alas) converted him, and since then we rescued one to share.

We adored her, Mr G spoilt her rotten, and when she died 15 yrs later we didn't get another, deciding the heartbreak was so awful, devastating, and we could at last take off at a whim without the cost and need for kitty care.

However, he's inadvertently become a cat whisperer.

I love his adoration for cats. He's in the garden most days and it's quite large. A neighbour's cat had taken to resting under the shade of shrubs but if The Man approached, the cat would take off. Over a few weeks the cat became more trusting...appearing whenever he heard Mr G in the garden.
It eventually came up for chin rubs, and would purr around his legs, then plonk itself down on the lawn in full sight to observe, groom, snooze and every so often obstruct his digging or wedding or whatever, to get a bit of fuss, which Mr G gladly gave.

No food was given, the cat wasn't encouraged into the garden but it obviously enjoyed the peace and quiet and company of Mr G.

Now...months later, it's on the feline grapevine that Mr G and the lady of the house are cat friendly.

Mr G now has the company of 4 neighbourhood cats most days, all well fed and looked after, who visit him regularly..

They arrive a bit timid but soon relax, sit under shrubs, roll around on the terrace, make themselves comfy on the lawn and generally make the garden their meeting place. They seem to know each other. The gardener has named for them too. We have Percy, Monty
Alan and Hammy.

Mr G is predictable. Named after tv gardeners.

They seem to enjoy being in the company of a cat man who'll talk to them, acknowledge them and not shoo them away. He'll leave bowls of water out, but we make a point of not feeding them, given we know all too well the worry caused when a beloved cat disappears from home.

The cats come and go and we never allow them into the house.

Mr G can't help being a pussy magnet. Ahem.

Last week we sat out in the garden after the sun had set and one by one our cat visitors appeared. The big Maine Coon ( Monty, but we don't know his real name ) from three doors down sat at my feet, Percy the chunky tabby watched us from under the Apple tree, Hammy, grey with blue eyes jumped on the table and sniffed our wine, and Alan, black, fluffy and the most imperious, viewed from afar, like a supervisor.

It was slightly Twilight Zone-ish but magical too, knowing these cats from round and about liked to hang out with us.

So yes, cats do wander and can be very sociable. This quartet have adopted Mr G and they've come to accept my presence in the garden too.

We feel honoured that we don't scare or unnerve them, but we are equally aware they have homes, so musn't encourage them to stray.

Cats do their own thing, and always have.

Ooh your so lucky and you describe it all so well !!

Siptree Thu 09-Jul-26 16:19:54

Oh, I thought it was just a local problem. Its beyond ridiculous on Facebook groups for our town. We have five cats that visit our garden on a daily basis and another two that are less regular from time to time a random one shows up. Nine times out of ten it's either someone new has moved in locally and their cat is exploring the area. People just see a cat and if it's stands, sits or lies down for more than a few minutes they are on Facebook. When someone's cat goes missing and they ask if anyone has seen it 9 times out of 10they haven't. Some clown saw a strange cat in their garden one morning and there was no response to, anyone know whose it is.The next time they saw it they were one their way to work and stuck it in the boot and took it to the big town 15miles away for vet to scan it! Apparently didn't have time to stop of ant one of several vets in this town.

undines Thu 09-Jul-26 16:21:40

A lot of people want to control everything
It's a sign of the times
Good luck with herding cats is all I can say!

MayBee70 Thu 09-Jul-26 16:42:56

Sparky51

Not everyone likes other peoples cats in their garden.Especially when they dig holes.and poop in there.I have 2 dogs..whose owner complains they chase her cats..well..keep them in your garden then.

My cats always pooped in my neighbours garden; thankfully they were cat lovers. I did provide them with a litter tray but it didn’t help.

pen50 Thu 09-Jul-26 17:08:16

We invested in a couple of Weenect cat trackers (one on the cat, one on charge) and associated app. Peace of mind.

Whitewavemark2 Thu 09-Jul-26 18:12:20

I am very lucky I think. My little stray tabby never wanders from the garden and so the house and garden are her world.

But the law recognises cat’s nature and their need to explore and “patrol” their territory, and so that need is protected in law.

valdali Thu 09-Jul-26 21:35:51

My cat used to sit on the pavement by our gate when people were wandering down to get their morning paper from the shop just past us.
She just liked a fuss from them, & sometimes people would ask if she was OK because she wasn't there to greet them that morning.
I did used to worry about the road as it was quite busy, but she was very canny with traffic & died eventually from kidney failure (she was a middle-aged rescue so we didn't know her age exactly).

Emeraldforest Thu 09-Jul-26 22:35:32

I'm always happy to see the neighbours cats in my garden.My little old one is very tolerant.She can't climb the fence any more so is happy to potter about.
Last year though we were 'targetted' by a grumpy girl cat with terrible skin allergy. She just wouldn't leave and if we put her out she kept coming back! She pretty much moved in for about a month and eventually we took her to the vet for treatment .
The vet scanned her for a microchip...she had one. She was immediately taken off us,gosh I felt guilty. She had in fact relieved treatment from the very same vet.
Well turns out her owner lives round the corner from us. They didn't seem that bothered that she had been missing. She had probably been living with both of us for while! She still comes round for a visit .