How can I stop people from 'helping' ?

I must have missed this thread 3 months ago, I have had a read through and I think the OP is probably a very difficult person.

What a shame she cannot just say thanks for trying to help but I’m OK.

I'm 61, non-disabled, brain and body work well.

A few months ago I went into a cafe I'd never been to before, and the only available table at the time was a 4-seater so I was seated with a couple. I didn't know them..

I was looking over the menu and the man said ''Could I recommend ...?'' But it involved bread, which I don't like and can't touch anyway because of gluten issues so I politely said ''No, thank you'' and continued with my menu.

Then she said ''Well, what about ...?'' I snapped ''NO, THANK YOU.'' Back to my menu.

He then replied ''Well, you don't have to be rude, we were just trying to help''.

I shot back ''Excuse me? I don't need your ''help''. You don't know me, I'm a total stranger to you both, but YOU decide what I should eat/drink? Do I look and sound like I have severe inactive brain activity to the point I can't make up my own mind? Mind your own sodding business!''

They pouted and huffed as I chose MY OWN things!

TheWeirdoAgain60

I'm 61, non-disabled, brain and body work well.

A few months ago I went into a cafe I'd never been to before, and the only available table at the time was a 4-seater so I was seated with a couple. I didn't know them..

I was looking over the menu and the man said ''Could I recommend ...?'' But it involved bread, which I don't like and can't touch anyway because of gluten issues so I politely said ''No, thank you'' and continued with my menu.

Then she said ''Well, what about ...?'' I snapped ''NO, THANK YOU.'' Back to my menu.

He then replied ''Well, you don't have to be rude, we were just trying to help''.

I shot back ''Excuse me? I don't need your ''help''. You don't know me, I'm a total stranger to you both, but YOU decide what I should eat/drink? Do I look and sound like I have severe inactive brain activity to the point I can't make up my own mind? Mind your own sodding business!''

They pouted and huffed as I chose MY OWN things!

Is the OP your sister?

I was thinking the same, SAGO.

Alie2Oxon

As the original poster, I asked "How do you stop people from 'helping'?
This is turning into something else. I give up!

Someone else can carry on, I'm not.

The basis of your problem is not "other people", it's your social and communication skills.

Sago

I must have missed this thread 3 months ago, I have had a read through and I think the OP is probably a very difficult person.

What a shame she cannot just say thanks for trying to help but I’m OK.

Yep, that's all it takes to rub along in life. We probably all get ratty sometimes, but there's a difference between being irritated and turning something into WW3!

Some of my most interesting chats with folks have started with 'Coffee Shop pleasantries' TheWeirdoAgain60 and some have become friends.