AIBU to say that husband was irresponsible?

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They had a great time.
I so wish my husband was still with us and able to do daft things with our grandson.

Lighten up a little.

Well done Singingnanny for trying to chill out a bit and like you say they are now living with the consequences they ll take their shoes off next time 😂😂😂

It depends on the weather doesn't it? You have no reason to apologise for your upbringing. If one of the children was slightly unwell, Mum may not be happy with their sitting around in wet clothes. They are other people children and he is unreasonable and thoughtless to leave you waiting outside, he isn't 7.

singingnutty

Thanks everyone. I am going to try to chill out a bit more! I had to smile yesterday though when we were taking them out because, putting on their shoes, they were complaining as they were still quite wet.

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Stuff them with newspaper.

(The shoes, not the children.)

Whoops.... See about I would have done the same.

No I wouldn't let it bother me, in fact my GC have done it, and my DD did it once, when she was about 8, in a theme park, didn't have any spare clothes, we just bought a big cheap Tshirt and she kept her wet pants one. Tbh, as a child think I would have

Hm...I think grandad is getting away with more than grandma would!
There aren't any grandpa's in this family,sadly,just this one nanny,I'm not a killjoy but I would have been irritated and I don't think my grandchildren's parents would be exactly thrilled.

Thank you for updating us SN. ☺️

Thank you for your update. The children are quietly learning actions and consequences which I think is a good way to learn.

I remember my two grandsons getting quite wet in the temporary sprays at the Hay ward gallery. It meant a trip to the nearest store to find some dry clothes as we were off to the theatre that evening. We had a great evening and if their shoes were wet well no one noticed.
My grandsons now are grown up but we do have do you remember when times.

Thanks for your update singingnutty- I read many posts on AIBU and it's often the case the OP doesn't come back to give an update to outcome after lots of feedback suggestions.

Good for you. Your grandsons enjoyed the moment in the sun on Tuesday and now aware of the consequences. But no harm done and happy times and fond memories for all to look back on.

Thanks everyone. I am going to try to chill out a bit more! I had to smile yesterday though when we were taking them out because, putting on their shoes, they were complaining as they were still quite wet.

I can relate to what you’re saying. I had a strict upbringing and my DH is much more free spirited. I probably would have been frustrated with my DH in those circumstances, however I know that at times I need to shake it off and lighten up. If your GC noticed you being cross that’s fine - might have made them feel it was a bit naughty and so a bit more fun, but also would have emphasised that it’s not a sensible everyday activity. No harm done, it was a hot day, and they had a great time. Hope it’s water under the bridge.

bet they had a ball! its hard to lighten up if you are not like that me included but wet clothes are nothing. soon dry or put on line or stop at Tesco get some cheap outfits.

NotSpaghetti

I do hope you are feeling better today singingnutty

I do too, and as ginny said, being in everyday clothes would be a big part of the fun!
I can guess what their next request will be when an outing is suggested, so maybe have a change of clothes at your house.

I do hope you are feeling better today singingnutty

Were they?
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I obviously invented that! Apologies!

Well, how did you know they were Christmas pyjamas? !!!! 😀😀

I'd give your husband a hug if I were you and tell him he'd got it right.

Yes. Give him a big hug and remember the happy day for the joy your grandchildren had.

It may even become a bit of a jokey memory in years to come, and you will be able to laugh at yourself with them...

"^Remember when we larked about in the water feature and granny got cross because we had no dry clothes^ ... and then we had to go home in *Christmas pyjamas*"


Yes, value that "silly" man.

MawsRosie

Sadly this is why grandpas are generally regarded as more fun than (sensible) grannies!

Not in this house. Grandad is known as the grumpy old man. I am far more relaxed as long as it not hurting anybody else or themselves.

I’m the fun one. My DH is like the fun police. He had a strict upbringing- no fun at all. I always tell him to chill out but he finds it hard to do. Such a shame. Life shouldn’t be always serious. .

Sadly this is why grandpas are generally regarded as more fun than (sensible) grannies!

Margs

If he's being lauded as a 'Fun Grandpa' does that mean you are being silently labelled 'Grumpy Granny'?

If that's the case then you'd be justified in making your feelings known quite clearly.

Singingnutty put her OP in AIBU.
She was asking a question. We've given her our opinions. That is what she wanted from us
We're not suggesting SN is grumpy at all. Simply saying that, yes we do think her husband was right in this instance.