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It's time to stop pandering

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Elless Sun 20-Sept-26 11:34:31

Reading in the paper this morning about - wait for it - EBSA 🙄apparently a condition where children are 'too anxious' to go to school.
I was bullied at school, never popular and always on the outs. I hated school and dreaded it. I remember lying on the sofa with severe tonsillitis and hearing my parents saying 'she won't go to school tomorrow' - I had to be dying before they'd let me stay off. There's too much molly coddling kids these days 😡

Elless Sun 20-Sept-26 11:37:00

Forgot to mention - they are paying £3,500 a pop for robots to sit in class for the child suffering from EBSA so that they can be in class 'virtually'.

Calendargirl Sun 20-Sept-26 11:44:07

Emotionally Based School Avoidance.

Had to look it up.

Hmm.

Lots of times when as a child you would much, much rather stay safely at home with Mum, sooner than go to school.

Am sure many of us can relate to that.

And in the future?

Does it carry on to needing to avoid college, work….?

Everything has a label nowadays.

friendlygingercat Sun 20-Sept-26 11:46:33

If I had refused to go to school a smart slap across the legs would soon have cured it. I can remember going with cardboard in the soles of my shoes because my mother could not afford new ones. No wonder today's kids are so weak and spineless that they are too scared to make a phone call.

MG55 Sun 20-Sept-26 11:47:09

I had to look it up also.
The use of (very small) devices looks interesting and quite innovative 👍

OldFrill Sun 20-Sept-26 11:51:37

It's not really about pandering, certain media have decided to highlight the EBSA aspect as it obviously grabs attention. For many children unable to attend school it's a lifeline.

Classroom robots to support absent children in Wakefield - BBC News share.google/3Zmx8QOOJFo5tu66s

Cossy Sun 20-Sept-26 12:09:18

All I can add is that some children need to be able to have a helping hand from parents to build the reliance and confidence they will need throughout their lives. We all have to do things we don’t like doing, school is a good example of this.

PaperMonster2 Sun 20-Sept-26 13:24:09

Oh my word, oh my word. What an awful post. You do realise that this has been around for a long time right? Have you ever worked with someone who really wants to be in school, but physically is unable to do this? Well, clearly not as you’re obviously not compassionate enough to do that.

Cossy Sun 20-Sept-26 13:32:03

PaperMonster2

Oh my word, oh my word. What an awful post. You do realise that this has been around for a long time right? Have you ever worked with someone who really wants to be in school, but physically is unable to do this? Well, clearly not as you’re obviously not compassionate enough to do that.

I have absolutely no doubt in my mind at all that there are children who cannot cope in school, children who dearly want to go to school, but for one reason or another have developed a massive fear or phobia about actually attending school.

I think COVID lockdown will have affected this and undoubtedly caused a whole generation to have some children greatly mentally and emotionally affected.

But, I still stand by my assertion that we do also have to support all children to build resilience and confidence to be able to face their great fears and to support them to overcome and manage them.

We need to support them to grow and to become responsible adults.

I’m not suggesting it doesn’t exist, nor that we should ignore it.