Don't like surprises 😒

Sarnia

I would gently tell him that you don't want to go. It's seems he meant well but he should have asked you before booking. If the object of the exercise is to destress then going with a friend, no matter how close they are, isn't going to work. Your friend will want to chat, may not want you to do your crafting, wants to go out places when you would rather not.
Best all round to be honest. No offence meant to your DH or your friend but as you have been at everyone's beck and call, it's time for you to have a few days of exactly what YOU would like.

Yes!! 👏👏👏👏

Sago

I am not a lover of surprises either but I do often get sick of making all the decisions and planning everything.

Just go with it, it may turn out to be one of the best breaks you have had.

It’s a real lose, lose, isn’t it. 🤣😂🤣😂

I would gently tell him that you don't want to go. It's seems he meant well but he should have asked you before booking. If the object of the exercise is to destress then going with a friend, no matter how close they are, isn't going to work. Your friend will want to chat, may not want you to do your crafting, wants to go out places when you would rather not.
Best all round to be honest. No offence meant to your DH or your friend but as you have been at everyone's beck and call, it's time for you to have a few days of exactly what YOU would like.

Surprises like that can be tricky. I wouldn't be keen.
Any chance it can be cancelled? You may lose the deposit if the date is close.
Just say you'd like a 2 night stay in a hotel, which may not cost as much, so a possibility of making up the potential loss of deposit.
He should understand that you don't like to be rushed into a choice that you wouldn't enjoy.

I would go.

And at some point politely tell your friend that you want time alone.
If she is a good friend, she will understand.

Thinking about it, you may want to tell her before you go.
So she can pack accordingly - books, puzzles, walking boots, whatever.

I am not a lover of surprises either but I do often get sick of making all the decisions and planning everything.

Just go with it, it may turn out to be one of the best breaks you have had.

No, you’re not being unreasonable, but it is a very lovely and kind gesture from your DH. However, after all these years you’d think he’d know you slightly better.

I’m the same, and it’s so sad, but I loathe surprises of all types!