I have been with my GC over Easter and continue to be concerned about the ongoing problem of my 9 year old GS's behaviour. His parents too are concerned and frequently express this to me, and I feel in a quandary about it - do I say what I think (which is that he does not get clear boundaries and they need to get their act together on this) or do I continue to try and bolster their confidence as parents and avoid anything that might be construed as criticism? I do not want to risk alienating them or causing any sort of rift, but on the other hand all the wider family are concerned - their concern is expressed between themselves rather than directly, as we all feel wary of direct comment. I am often in a difficult situation as my other children say how worried they are and I want to try and acknowledge that without being partisan behind my D's back.
One particularly worrying incident was an act of quite serious aggression towards my D (his mother) that went unpunished - a lot of shouting went on, but no clear consequence occurred.
I am sure there will be others who can identify with this scenario and would be interested to hear their experiences.
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