What a nightmare! Like lots of GNetters, I enjoy a glass or three of wine, but never when I am babysitting. Of course you are right in that these people are not fit to look after your daughter, but I feel that the root of this problem lies between you and your husband. You do not seem able to communicate your very reasonable fears in a way that he is able to accept and act upon. Of course, I feel some sympathy for him as he is caught in the middle, but if he cannot see that his duty as a father and husband must take precendence over his role as a son in this important matter, then you have a real problem on your hands. I suspect you already know this. It's all very well to say call the social workers or the police, but the repercussions for this within your marriage would have to be faced. I get the feeling, and apologies if I am way off beam here, that this is the crisis these underlying problems are leading up to. I hope I don't sound like a know it all - but I remember very vividly my then husband insisting on taking our 5 year old son out on a high powered motorbike, without any protective clothing or crash hat, which was not the law in those days. I rang the police, to be told that my husband was not breaking the law and they could not intervene. Maybe so, but this was the tipping point for me. I sincerely wish you all the best in resolving this difficult situation. Stay strong for your daughter and for yourself.