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overthehill Sat 15-Feb-14 12:05:39

Do you look after your grandchildren when they are sick so mum can go to work.

I don't look after mine as one is at school and the other one will be going to a nursery. What I do instead, is have them if they go out, overnight if they need a break. I will have the older one occasionally during school holidays.

DD did mention having them when they are ill. I am slightly worried about this as things like colds etc. really knock me for six and if I pick up the germs from them I will be ill for ages when they will probably be long better. It hasn't happened yet and DD is very good and doesn't take advantage at all so I like to help where I can.

What do others do?

Lona Mon 17-Feb-14 09:25:15

Galen is a doctor!

Flowerofthewest Mon 17-Feb-14 00:24:38

Have looked on NHS site and it says you cannot catch shingles from chickenpox but you can the other way round. I was advised by my GP to avoid young babies and pregnant mums when I had shingles the other month. I stayed in for 3 weeks and really missed my littlest grand children.

margaretm74 Sun 16-Feb-14 22:19:47

My GP assures me that you cannot catch shingles from chickenpox (absolutely not!) but you can catch chickenpox from touching a shingles blister. His practice nurse disagrees and believes you can catch shingles from chickenpox, (but only says this if you speak to her when she is on her own).

Hung jury?

I asked medical professionals if it was possible for an unvaccinated baby to catch measles or rubella from a child who had had a bad reaction with rash from the MMR vaccine. I was told this was impossible but I am not convinced.
Does anyone know more please?

Joelise Sun 16-Feb-14 22:08:33

Thank you to all on the chicken pox & shingles information, I think I'ii be eligible for vaccination next year, which I will have, I know from friends & family how distressing & painful it can be.

Flowerofthewest Sun 16-Feb-14 21:24:31

My eldest DD contracted chickenpox for the second time from my shingles when she was 7, it, unfortunately went to the lining of her brain and she was ill with meningitis and hospitalised for 2 weeks. She only had a few chickenpox blisters on her leg and had had full blown chickenpox when she was about 3.

Flowerofthewest Sun 16-Feb-14 21:20:56

Galen as far as I am aware, having checked with my GP it is possible for someone with Shingles to give someone Chickenpox but not the other way around. Will double check but I know this is what he told me the other month when I had Shingles.

annodomini Sun 16-Feb-14 20:58:40

A year ago, one of mine donated his noro virus to me, then swanned off to Florida with the rest of the family. Generous child!

Galen Sun 16-Feb-14 20:34:17

You can get it either way round! Shingles from chickenpox or chickenpox from shingles
It's herpes zoster.

margaretm74 Sun 16-Feb-14 19:37:29

We wondered how they picked this criterion as neither DH nor I were eligible. He go shingles before Christmas.

FlicketyB Sun 16-Feb-14 19:32:44

If you were 70 or 79 between 1 Sep 2012 and 1 Sep 2013 you can be vaccinated against shingles. The dates will move forward every year. I got done in the first year, but DH will have to wait until next autumn.

margaretm74 Sun 16-Feb-14 16:22:26

Supposedly!

Joelise Sun 16-Feb-14 15:58:26

Oh I didn't know that , thank you Margaret, whew !

margaretm74 Sun 16-Feb-14 15:55:24

It is supposedly the other way round, Joelise, you can't catch shingles from chickenpox but someone who has not had chickenpox could catch it by touching shingles spots.

However, the nurse at our practice said she always notices a rise in shingles cases when there is an outbreak of chickenpox. Perhaps it reactivates the virus, which sits in the nerves at the base of your spine.

Joelise Sun 16-Feb-14 15:48:53

Hi everyone, I'm rather new to this.
We looked after DGS from when he was 8 weeks old , for 4 days a week, until he went to school ( he is now nearly 8 years old) . So we went through innumerable coughs, colds, ear infections etc etc.but didn't succumb to many illnesses ourselves, thankfully.
We now look after our 2 granddaughters one day every other week. They have both, one after the other have just had chicken pox, & I must say that I was worried that we might get shingles, but, touch wood we are ok ( smile).
I remember " green candles " when my brother was small, they were gross, I agree with you Mishap .

Nelliemoser Sun 16-Feb-14 08:41:57

They are "candles" to me, but DD didn't have a clue what I meant when I used that term.

I live a bit too far away for an instant drop round. Toddlers generally seems to get poorly and better again very quickly. I am waiting for the next chicken pox outbreak though, I don't know when it's "due."

FlicketyB Sun 16-Feb-14 07:45:59

We call them fangs

margaretm74 Sat 15-Feb-14 18:02:43

DM used to call them Jimmy Crows - I have no idea why

Mishap Sat 15-Feb-14 17:57:24

It's the "green candles" that are the worst - yuk!

margaretm74 Sat 15-Feb-14 17:53:30

Had to clean DGD2' s 'snail trails' from the patio door yesterday! (She had been beaming at us from the conservatory, pressing her nose against the glass)

Flowerofthewest Sat 15-Feb-14 17:52:34

We are happy for the grandchildren to come round with any bugs going it is my DD who is worried we will catch something. I do see her several time a week normally. I am often covered in snot and my little DGC's face is like a shiny current bun for a week at a time. He seems to pick up everything that pre-school throws at him.

Mishap Sat 15-Feb-14 17:44:25

My DGD come over and spread copious snot around - sometimes we catch it and sometimes we don't. It all goes with the territory.

But if I or OH had a compromised immune system I would probably think again.

LizG Sat 15-Feb-14 17:01:26

I look after my DGS two days a week and collect others from school. So far since November I have had four colds and one tummy bug. Maybe the flu vaccination is called for next year smile

kittylester Sat 15-Feb-14 16:31:20

Yes!! I looked after DD1's two, one day per week, from birth until they went to school so I relish any chance to snuggle up in front of a dvd or reading a story with them. smile

Flowerofthewest Sat 15-Feb-14 16:08:19

No, although at a push I would, my DD is very aware that my DH's immune system may not be all it should be and will not even risk bringing them to us when they are ill with a virus. She also feels that the best place for a sick toddler and baby is with their mummy.

NanKate Sat 15-Feb-14 16:05:26

It's the one downside of being a grandparent we catch everything they have. Although my DIL calls upon her parents as well to help out, since her mum got cancer she must avoid germs if poss, so it does tend to fall on us to help out.