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Not sure how to feel

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rosequartz Thu 02-Apr-15 17:52:27

I think that if you don't speak to her again as your sister advises then you risk not seeing your DGC - build bridges but be prepared for setbacks (is your DD quite volatile?).

Parcs Thu 02-Apr-15 17:51:41

But my main problem is How To Handle My Husband speaking to her as if she had not done and said all the horrid things!

I want to be able to deal with it because I do not want to be arguing with my husband about it

Parcs Thu 02-Apr-15 17:49:25

Yes I agree it is not good to use the little ones and my fear is that she will do it again

Parcs Thu 02-Apr-15 17:46:35

My sister said I would be setting myself up for a fall if I go back to speaking to my daughter I feel she has a point

rosequartz Thu 02-Apr-15 17:42:59

Not a good situation if you were all living together, fraught with difficulties.

I think it's time to move on and try to re-build your relationship, although it is not good to use the little ones in that way.

jinglbellsfrocks Thu 02-Apr-15 17:39:25

You need to be the bigger person. You know - the grown-up. Right?

Parcs Thu 02-Apr-15 17:38:11

my grandson is only 9 months and his step sister visited us occasionally too and she too would be used to hurt me

Parcs Thu 02-Apr-15 17:34:56

I have fallen out with my daughter after she and her husband and son moved in with us..She was selfish, dis respectful, thoughtless untidy, lazy, and I can honestly say that I am now of the opinion that she is the most un caring person I have known.

I could take no more and explained that she would have to move out and the main reason I made this decision was because all the upset and arguing was effecting all of us and my husband has high blood pressure, so it was a complete nightmare.

when she lived with me, if we had an argument she would involve baby, and if I were holding him, she would snatch him out of my hands and say "don't carry her I don't want you to but when we were not arguing she asked me to help with baby most of the time ..she, on a few occasions told me that I meant nothing to her and nearly every argument we had, she would say"and stay away from me and my family"

She was very un grateful for all the help we gave including financially

Here is my problem now I am still quite upset with all the horrid things she said and done and she visits ..very short visits .. my husband speaks to her as if she said none of the horrid things she said and did none of the horrid things she did and I get quite angry inside and do not know how to deal with that.