I didn't fly for over 40 years which people thought was odd as I'd been brought up on numerous RAF flying stations and had a pilot for a father. That was actually part of the problem I think, as whenever we flew commercially he wouid sit and find fault with the pilot's handling of the aircraft. Talk about a back seat driver! My brother and I could not make ourselves fly... I had other issues which didn't help, but I was far too aware of what needs to happen on a flight. We also had accidents on station.
Some 4/5 years ago I had to get to a squadron dinner at which there was a presentation involving my (late) father. I had to be there, no question, and the only way I could do it in the time we had available was to fly. So I did. It wasn't easy, don't get me wrong, but it had to be done and I just kept thinking how much my father had loved flying. It gave me a positive focus and I felt very connected to him. I was so proud of myself when I got off that plane! It really hadn't been anywhere near as bad as I had envisaged, I had it hyped up in my head and it simply wasn't like that at all. I also realised that commercial flights are not the same as RAF flights or my exacting father's expectations.
Since then I have flown when I've needed to, and my poor, patient DH has finally got his holidays in the sun. I wouldn't say it was my favourite thing in the world but there are bits of it I quite enjoy, and I know it's worth it to achieve what I want.
There is so much help available out there and there's a world of experiences waiting for you. Go get them.