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childrens bedtimes

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jinglbellsfrocks Sun 26-Jul-15 10:22:54

I agree with ethel completely. Children should have regular bedtimes. That is one thing I don't like in european cities - seeing young children being trawled around in buggies when they should be tucked up in bed.

A Sunday outing to visit Granny and Grandad is, of course, exempt. But they should be got into pj's at Granny's house and tumbled straight into bed at the other end. Not too late either.

Iam64 Sun 26-Jul-15 08:47:39

Our babies and young children would come with us to visit family or friends in the evening. They'd either all be put to bed together or fall asleep in our arms. Bundle them up in blankets and straight home to their own beds. When on holiday abroad or in this country if the weather was ok, they'd come out with us in the evening, fall asleep in our arms or in their pushchairs and then be popped into bed when we got back.

During the school week we had regular bed times and routines that went with that. Our children and others in our friendship/family group just fitted in with the routines or the flexibility at special times.

Nelliemoser Sat 25-Jul-15 23:43:23

If it's once in while it's not a problem. It is a Saturday.

We used to take ours 25miles to my in laws. To come home we got them ready for bed and drove them home, take them out of the car in their pyjamas, and transfer them straight into bed. It would not be good to keep them up late every night.

harrigran Sat 25-Jul-15 23:35:02

I don't agree with keeping children up late, they can be awfully crabby the next morning. Once in a while for a family celebration is okay but do it on a regular basis and you get a letter from the teacher saying that Johnny/Jane is tired in class and would benefit from an earlier bedtime.

Ana Sat 25-Jul-15 23:02:41

grin I do hope so!

Anya Sat 25-Jul-15 23:01:04

It's summer and the schools are out. Perhaps they're on holidays?

Do you love in a holiday resort Ethel

Lona Sat 25-Jul-15 22:51:38

If it's just an occasional outing then I don't see the harm. If they have several children they probably don't get many opportunities to go out.
If they were out every other night then it would be a different matter.

janeainsworth Sat 25-Jul-15 22:48:48

I don't think it matters once in a while, or even on a regular basis really.
I think early bedtimes were more for the parents' benefit than the children's. People put the children to bed at 6.30 or 7.00 and then wondered why the children woke up at 5.30am, but wanted the evenings to themselves.
In other countries quite young children going out for dinner in the evening is considered normal.
Now that in very many families both parents work, they need time in the evenings together with the children.

Anya Sat 25-Jul-15 22:47:19

I did the same when mine were babies.

Anya Sat 25-Jul-15 22:46:04

Not necessarily agree with you Ethel

When my GC were babies, and I'd invite their parents over for dinner, they'd put the little ones down to sleep in my house. When it was time to go home, they'd put them, still fast asleep, into the double buggy and push them home, about a mile away.

They were then transferred to their own cot/bed still asleep.

etheltbags1 Sat 25-Jul-15 22:28:52

As I type this I can hear the noise from a large family going past my house, they have several older children and a toddler and a baby in a buggy. Does anyone agree with me that 10.20pm in much too late for small children to be out and the family should taylor its outings to fit in with the babies. They wont be little for ever.

My DDs FIL recently said that they should take the little one out at night and just let her fall asleep in her buggy, DD was so angry at this suggestion as they only go out at night if they have a babysitter.

Young families nowadays seem to be more lax with their bedtime rules than my generation was, does anyone agree