WilmaKnickersfit I just think that if my child was drinking too much or taking drugs or being affected by being around the wrong type of people, gambling, anything which puts their lives in danger then I would say something. And being overweight is no different. It is putting your life in danger.
Yes, of course they are adults and make their own decisions, but if that decision is endangering their life and that of their own children and partner by maybe taking them too soon from this life, then I will say something. If something did happen and I hadn't said anything, then what then? If it comes from the right place of concern and the child can hear that in your voice, then I don't think there would be the problems people are saying. The right time and place would have to be found but it can be done and if a parent is so worried, then it should be done, in my opinion.
Turn it on it's head, my son has said to me that I need to lose weight, to excercise more and to get healthier. He didn't say it in a nasty way, he was genuinly concerned that I am not as healthy as I should be and he is right, hence me joining Slimming World. It has encouraged me to go, him saying what he did. And we have some right old fights but I do know that when he said that that he was genuinely bothered, especially seeing as he is leaving this year for uni and he doesn't want to leave me in the bad health that I am in because he would only worry all the time that I was ok. I know it was said with love and care. He is an adult now, just the same.
Like I said, we all know our own, so it's up to the individual. Now I'm off to get better, hopefully.