What is a 'typical ' boy?

One of my grandsons has a similar nature. His Dad (our son) was like that too.
When he was in his 20s our son said to me, don't worry Mum, I'll be a father one day. He was an admirer of David Bowie in his hermaphrodite phase.
It takes all sorts.
Giving children a label like that is completely wrong and harmful.

Poor lad; I hope he has the confidence to be himself. What a shame that the label "gay" is used so easily these days. At 10, how can he have any idea about what his sexuality may turn out to be, and how on earth do these people think it relates to a quiet nature and an interest in computers, reading and stationery? (You might be describing my DGSs there.) He has friends who presumably like him for what he is, and if he is a naturally kind person he will find that people, (including girls should he turn out not to be gay after all!) will be drawn to him.

I agree that girls are lucky, although I think we have to watch out for the princess/pink brigade who think that they shouldn't be allowed to be tomboys, and there are too many people who think that all boys should be tough and aggressive, even if that is not their nature. We all know where misplaced toughness and aggression get us...

Good luck to your DGS, oldgoose, and to you in your support of him.

Not with my grandchildren but certainly plenty during my many years as a primary school teacher. It is lovely to hear that he enjoys these things...I guess the only issue might be that these are quite self contained activities and he might have difficulties with a wider set of friends. You mention the words 'gentle' and 'kind'....what great qualities and to be celebrated. Yes he doesn't fit sone people's idea of a 'typical boy' but he is an individual doing the things that he enjoys. Good for him and good for him for also not being pressurised into such things as football. He sounds delightful.

My dgs is 16, he also is quiet and gentle, with some lovely friends. Only yesterday his mother said she thought he was 'gay' as he hadn't had a girlfriend yet (to her knowledge). He would be mortified if he had heard her say it.
My DH and I think he is a late starter. We will love him whatever.

Girls are so lucky- they can be tom boys and play rugby, and also be fairies and do ballet- and no-one bats an eyelid.

Its lucky he's got you. Its important at any age I suppose to have people who really appreciate you. I bet he'll do well in life.

What a huge pity - how sad. have you talked to his parents and discussed your concerns re comments made and possible effects? What do his mum and dad think about it all.

Totally agree that putting labels on kids so young (including selection for academic/vocational) is just soooo wrong.

Poor chap - let's hope that none of this nonsense is coming from his parents.