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How long would you like to live?

(40 Posts)
obieone Fri 07-Oct-16 17:56:52

I was thinking 95, but I have a suspicion that if I was 95 and feeling ok, I would not want to go then!
So past 106!

Mildred Fri 07-Oct-16 17:49:32

I too am 70 this year and like Falconbird my grandchildren are only 5 and 3, so I would like to see them grow up. Mr M is 79 this year fit as a fiddle and full of beans, his family except for his grandmother did not make old bones so he has always taken care of himself.

Tizliz Fri 07-Oct-16 17:44:45

My OH says he is living until 100, so I might give up some time before that grin

wot Fri 07-Oct-16 17:43:32

I'm still waiting for my life to start, let alone finish!

Charleygirl Fri 07-Oct-16 17:39:54

Provided I can still look after myself and I am not suffering from dementia I am happy to carry on.

hildajenniJ Fri 07-Oct-16 17:06:43

If I live to near the ages of my parents I will be satisfied. My mother died age 89 and my dad made it to 92. I would love to be active to the end like my great aunt who spent her last day gardening.

Deedaa Fri 07-Oct-16 16:58:48

Well my mother died at 79 and, as I am taking rather more care of my health than she did, I hope to manage a bit longer than that. My father smoked himself to death at 65 so I'm five years ahead of him already. What I really want to do is enjoy the time I have left instead of moaning about everything like my in laws did.

Falconbird Fri 07-Oct-16 16:51:16

I will be 70 at the end of the year but my grandchildren are very young, I would love to live to see them become adults which would would mean I would have to live to be 90!

My dh husband died at nearly 68 and the children's grandmother on the other side died at a similar age so I often feel guilty at still being alive and enjoying being a grandparent.

My mother lived until she was 90 years and six months old so I hope and sometimes pray I will last that long. smile

Greyduster Fri 07-Oct-16 16:38:49

Until I can no longer stand in a river with a fly rod in my hand (which may be sooner rather than later) smile. The women in our family are not known for making old bones, and like starbird I will also be 70 in a few weeks time so I am looking to buck the trend. Having said that I have never had a year when I have felt so unfit with injuries and health problems, so who knows? I would quite like to be hanging about when my GS reaches his majority. He is nearly ten.

starbird Fri 07-Oct-16 16:13:48

My mother died at 63 so I have never expected to live much longer than that, hence never planned for it. I will be 70 in a few weeks time, and although I live a relatively active life, and belong to/help with various organisations, because I have moved around quite a bit I am no longer close to loved ones or long term friends. There are times when I feel that the effort it takes to stay active is not worth it, and have to force myself to do things so as not to let others down. I look forward to days when I can stay in and not get dressed, or at least wear jogging bottoms and fleece tops, and not bother with make up! I could easily give up everything, sit at home and read/watch tv, and eat bread and cheese and occasional other things, knowing that in doing so I would go down hill fast. I am content with "three score years and ten" and if I were to be diagnosed with something life threatening I don't think I would bother to fight it. I am not depressed, I have had a life, and I think I have been lucky to have lived in the second half of the last century. The future holds a lot of promise, but also a lot of suffering as the world adjusts to new realities. I will be happy to go when the time comes, and look forward to the next stage of existence, which I firmly believe in.

Fairydoll2030 Fri 07-Oct-16 16:06:11

My mum-in-law is 100. She lives alone, keeps the house tidy and cooks her own meals at the weekends. On the down side, she is housebound most of the time.
She really feels she's lived long enough. Her heart is giving out and she gets very breathless at times. She also suffers a lot of back pain. She was very sprightly until about 5 years ago.
Incredibly, her friend has just died - she was 106! However, she has been in a nursing home for 10 years and suffering severe dementia for the past 3.
I would like to live into my 80's to see my DGS reach his teens, at least - I came late to becoming a grandparent. I had severe health problems last year - and nearly died so to me, now, every birthday is a bonus.
So many of my friends popped off, some quite unexpectedly, in their 60's. Make every day count!!

Teetime Fri 07-Oct-16 15:52:10

wot Anya says.

ninathenana Fri 07-Oct-16 15:50:39

If I was fit enough physically and mentally to look after myself then I'd live to see my great grandchildren. So at least another 20-30 yrs but that would only make me 80-90, still in my prime grin wink

Anya Fri 07-Oct-16 15:39:44

Until I lose the will to live.

which is related to the amount of time I spend on this forum

LyndaW Fri 07-Oct-16 15:33:58

Some of you will have seen the report out that humans have apparently hit our 'natural limit' and we're unlikely to reach an age over 115 (plenty enough for me!) but the truth is, isn't life 'done' by then? Obviously it depends so much on your quality of life - an unwell 50 year old vs a sprightly 80 year old for instance but generally speaking, I can't think I'd want to last much past my 90th, perhaps 95th birthday?