Do your kids remember your Wedding Anniversary? Do you expect them to?

Teetime I'm glad I'm not the only one who isn't good at parties. All our big anniversaries have been very low key affairs - just the two of us, and, exceptionally, for our 50th, the children and their children. I was talking to the most long standing of our friends on Christmas Day and she said to me "Wasn't it your 50th this year?" I said yes it was but we didn't make a fuss about it, in much the same way as we didn't make a fuss of our wedding. "I thought it was" she said "you got married the same year we did". Her husband - DH's best friend - died four years ago, and I was so sad I was completely lost for words. Theirs would certainly not have been a low key celebration.

Both our daughters usually remember even though OH is their stepdad which is nice. We share the anniversary with two of our grandchildren/nephews so they do remember as I do theirs. I don't have to remember my children's anniversaries because despite us having 8 grandchildren none of them are currently married

4 of our children remember, eldest son rarely remembers any occasions. But they only bought cards and presents for the big ones. I always send cards on their anniversaries, although youngest son says we shouldn`t bother (he`s not a very sentimental sort!) My mother always remembered our anniversaries, MIL never, although we bought them a present for their ruby wedding.

I don't do wedding anniversaries, unless big ones, and wouldn't expect my children to- until we get to 40 or 50yrs.

We don't expect anyone else but us to remember out wedding anniversaries and I have to say I don't remember anyone else's!! Next year we celebrate our 40th year together (an my 65th birthday yuk yuk) and we may do a family thing then but maybe not!! I'm not much good at parties.

My DM always sent us an anniiversary card and I always sent DP's a card.H's sister used to send us one but gave up about 10 yrs ago. H and I bought my DP's a carrige clock for their silver. Our D sent us a ruby wedding card (the first from either child, they were too young at our 25th and 30th) but no gift, S didn't even bother with a card.

We celebrated our 40th anniversary in a favourite hotel in Brussels. One of our DDs quietly arranged for champagne and chocolates to be delivered to our room when we arrived. We were very surprised and over the moon!

I always gave a card and small gift to my parents, our children sometimes send a text but often forget. The exception was our 40th which they were very involved with, there had also been a gift on our 25th. We give a card and a small gift on theirs. I'm sort of relieved that it is not unusual now to mark parents' wedding anniversaries,

Aw padddyann that's a lovely thing to do.

The Wonderful Man and I exchange cards on our anniversary, but I don't expect anyone else to remember. For our Silver anniversary we had a big bash and so of course everyone remembered (was reminded) and we had a family meal for our 30th, so again the family bought cards and gifts (my children bought me pearls). I'm not sure if we'll do anything for our Coral (35th) anniversary, but we'll celebrate again if I live long enough to get to our Ruby anniversary. When we got married I always said we would have a big celebration for our silver wedding because I wasn't sure if my health would hold out for the later big ones.

my children always remember my mother in law rarely ,only the special ones .Its not important though,the only important thing is our yearly visit to church we married in,we stand at the altar at the time we got married on the anniversary .Thats been the way for over 40 years and long may it continue

No one remembers our wedding anniversary except me and DH.

Mine always do. It was our 52 on Monday and we have had two very thoughtful cards

Stansgran I do hope you're spared so you can enthrall us all when the time comes

My children certainly don't remember our wedding anniversary and I wouldn't expect them to as its our celebration. I never acknowledge theirs either for the same reason. My parents married on my mother's birthday!! Two birds with one stone, my stepfather used to say with a wink!!! I acknowledged the birthday but not the anniversary, again it was their personal celebration, and nothing to do with anyone else.

I would expect ours to notice our fiftieth which will come up in 2019 but that's because ,if were spared ,I intend to make an outrageous fuss.

No my children don't mark the occasion, it's my second marriage and my husband is not their father so understandable. I'm not bothered by this at all. I think big anniversaries are different perhaps, 25th or 50th.

Our two don't remember ordinary anniversaries, and neither would I expect them to. They did, however, mark our 25th, our 40th and our 50th. We always send an anniversary card to DS and DiL, but as DD and her partner are not married we have no anniversary to mark. I find this very sad really, because they have been together since she was 21 and she is 47 this year, so I suppose it should have been their 25th last year at some point. They don't seem to think it's of any importance.

DD and DS send us wishes but that is all - and I don't expect any more than that. I used to send a card and flowers / gift to my parents but they remembered ours but I don't think it's an issue with our own children and that's fine by me.

DM and DMiL always remembered our anniversary, and I always give the DCs money and a card on theirs.
My sister and I gave our parents somrthingnin their silver wedding, and I gave DM a bouquet on what would have been their Golden.
DCs don't remember ours but did all come to our Ruby wedding party!