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singerann2017 Fri 13-Jan-17 16:04:18

I would just like to ask what other people think about pub and public toilets. Whilst out today a father took his two year old to the gents in the pub. But the little girl had access to see men using the urinals. Am I being too sensitive here. He could have asked for the key to the disabled loo at the end of the bar. My husband chose not to use the loo as he was very uncomfortable.

foxie Sat 14-Jan-17 10:09:03

That reminds me of the time when I had just come out of the shower and a little head poked round the bathroom door and observed "My Daddy has got one of those and his is bigger than yours" <LoL>

NanaandGrampy Sat 14-Jan-17 10:08:10

If they have to go.......

Then if I'm the only adult available they come in with me ( boys and girls) , if Grampy is the only adult available then they go with him( girls and boys) .

They don't have enough time for looking around and if they did - they're not seeing people having sex just having a wee!!

Atthe pool at our gym the rule is no boys over the age of 8 in the ladies UNLESS they are only there with a lady . I really don't see the issue at all.

Better that than they go in alone - now that in my opinion is asking for trouble.

Jaycee5 Sat 14-Jan-17 09:54:34

Do pubs usually have urinals? I would have thought that most are too small and would just have a couple of cubicles.

Derek100 Sat 14-Jan-17 09:30:03

Yes, you are being too sensitive. Get over it and get a life!

Rosina Sat 14-Jan-17 09:27:48

Can't help but feel that the man was being thoughtless to leave the girl in the main area while he 'went to use the cubicle himself'. Why? That situation no doubt made the men coming in feel compromised - I know my OH would feel uncomfortable with an unknown small girl standing, alone, while he urinated!

Humbertbear Sat 14-Jan-17 09:25:44

I'd suggest using the disabled loo but if it's not available I don't see what the problem is

Anya Sat 14-Jan-17 08:43:12

It's sad that we have to worry like this all the time isn't it? And you'd have thought that it was quite OK for an 11-year old girl to go to the ladies alone. But a girl this age was raped in the toilets at Sainsbury's in Leamington Spa.

How can you protect against that?

paddyann Fri 13-Jan-17 23:38:05

MissAdventure ,me neither or his legs ,he didn;t wear shorts ...ever .We were a family of 4 daughters so poor dad was well outnumbered he never used bad language around us ..or other women either .In fact he used to blush over even quite mild bad language or scenes on TV he thought were embarassing.....and all those years ago they really weren't explicit at all ,60's and 70's TV was very innocent in comparison to todays

MissAdventure Fri 13-Jan-17 23:24:54

I never even saw my dad in his vest!
Times have changed so much; family dynamics too.

ninathenana Fri 13-Jan-17 23:20:05

Am I the only one who would take note of each guy coming out of the gents if my 8 yr old GS was in there alone. ?

Ana Fri 13-Jan-17 20:21:21

The up to and including 8 years old rule for boys in ladies toilets/changing rooms has been in place for years in my area.

Jalima Fri 13-Jan-17 20:14:03

I know what you mean petra but I wonder about the motive of the OP.
hence the hmm

petra Fri 13-Jan-17 19:48:10

Jalima Meaning the OP has nothing better to do or comment on.

tiggypiro Fri 13-Jan-17 19:46:35

A similar situation to that described by annsixty
DS takes her 2 boys to a swimming pool in a hotel in Beijing and always took them into the (open plan) ladies changing room. Apparently someone complained about boys being there (they were 2 and 6 at the time) and so 'The Rules' were changed and NO BOYS AT ALL were allowed in the ladies. Both boys were to go into the gents changing room on their own. You can imagine the conversation which took place. The up-shot was that a member of staff was to go with them to help change them and then again to dry and dress. As she handed over the nappy bag she just happened to mention the dirty nappy the 2yr old had. Strangely he was handed back pdq and was allowed back in the ladies. The 6yr old went in the gents with a staff member. Now out of nappies the younger one does also. As they visit the pool frequently they know the staff well and there have been no problems. DS rather likes the fact she can shower and change in peace but would have been very concerned if the boys had had to go in alone.

Anya Fri 13-Jan-17 19:42:09

When taking his daughter swimming my son had to take his daughter into the gents changing room. And there are often little boys in the female changing rooms.

I don't see the problem.

Jalima Fri 13-Jan-17 19:41:53

Is somebody bored.
hmm

Marmark1 Fri 13-Jan-17 19:40:51

There is nothing wrong with a dad taking his child to a public toilet.If she needs to go,she needs to go.We tend to worry about little girls in front of men,more than little boys in front of women,for good reason unfortunately.My Little granddaughter [3years] innocently comes out of the toilet with everything still pulled down.

f77ms Fri 13-Jan-17 19:38:33

Yes odd come to think of it hmm

f77ms Fri 13-Jan-17 19:37:39

If she was two she was no more than a toddler and wouldn`t have even noticed men using the toilets . Sounds a tad prudish to me , why was you H uncomfortable? has he never taken a child to use the Loo when out ?

Linsco56 Fri 13-Jan-17 19:35:17

Rather strange topic of conversation for a first post. hmm

I'm having doubts!

petra Fri 13-Jan-17 19:30:56

Jalima As I was posting I thought the same thing. Is somebody bored.

petra Fri 13-Jan-17 19:28:54

A 2 year old wouldn't even notice/ understand if someone was ' worse for wear'
I think some of you should get out more and then you'll see that most pubs now are family friendly.
Have some of you never been in a male toilet? If you haven't I can assure you that they are not all standing there waving the old fella around. In fact most men never see another mans penis in this situation.

FarNorth Fri 13-Jan-17 19:22:54

I remember going into men's toilets with my dad, when I was very young.

My DS is main carer for his 3yr old daughter. He takes her into men's toilets if there is no alternative, such as a disabled toilet, but is well aware that men's toilets are often dirtier and have been more vandalised than women's toilets.

Jalima Fri 13-Jan-17 19:02:07

hmm I was going to post but there is something odd about this thread.
Or is it just me?

rosesarered Fri 13-Jan-17 18:58:56

Yes, I wondered that! Maybe he didn't need to go himself?