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Ruby wedding anniversary gift

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chattykathy Mon 16-Jan-17 13:37:19

We are celebrating our ruby wedding anniversary this summer and whilst I have dropped a few hints for a ring (hubby needs prompting) I have absolutely no idea what to buy/do for him! I'd love to hear your ideas.
Thanks in advance.

paddyann Mon 16-Jan-17 13:44:55

I/we didn't want any gifts ,we tend to get what we want when we want it so we asked all our family and friends to give to a specific charity instead,most were happy to do that though one couple also gave us some chrystal to match my collection of Waterford and my inlaws gave us a garden bench .For my OH's 50th I got him a turntable he'd been fantasising about for years but wouldn't spend the cash on,we still have hundreds of vinyl albums so I splashed out for his Mitchel gyrodec and he absolutely loved it.It was the last really expensive gift I've bought for him though,now I just add to his whisky collection with bottles he doesn't have .Therres a lovely bottle called Royal Salute that comes in a ruby coloured flask if he's into whisky

janeainsworth Mon 16-Jan-17 14:08:51

kathy I would not rely on hint-dropping unless your DH has empathy levels not shared by most men.
I took no chances when it was our Ruby anniversary and when I happened to notice on John Lewis second-hand jewellery counter a lovely, modestly priced and unusually designed diamond and ruby ring, took the liberty of purchasing it on MrA's behalf.
He was delighted as he hates buying presents for anyone, not because he is mean but because he just doesn't like shopping.
It never occurred to me to buy him anythingblushshockgrin

Jayh Mon 16-Jan-17 14:21:29

Despite his insistence that he didn't want anything, I bought the OH a swanky watch which is waterproof and can be worn while swimming and diving. He loves it.
I had my wedding ring redesigned to incorporate rubies in the band so I can wear it every day as I would keep a ruby ring for best otherwise.
Congrats on your anniversary ๐ŸŒน

cornergran Mon 16-Jan-17 14:23:17

We love Venice and Venetian glass including the jewellery so went together to a specialist shop and chose a necklace and ear rings in a deep red. Mr C had cuff links in the same colour. Friends tended to either buy either red flowering plants or champagne. Both equally acceptable!

Gagagran Mon 16-Jan-17 14:28:33

We had our Ruby Wedding in 2005 and I had a picture painted for Mr Gaga, and being Northerners, it was painted in the Lowry style.

All the names of our immediate family featured on shop fronts, advertising hoardings and even the chipshop! The centrepiece was our wedding party standing outside the church. It was a huge surprise for him and it has hung over our fireplace ever since.

Th chap who painted it for me was a local amateur artist who also framed it. It was probably the best present I have ever given to my DH other than our DC. He gave me a ruby and diamond ring.

tanith Mon 16-Jan-17 14:38:52

We don't often buy each other presents but if its a big anniversary/birthday we will take a nice trip/holiday that we both want to do. Some good ideas on this thread though.

harrigran Mon 16-Jan-17 15:17:30

I gave DH a platinum and gold ring inscribed inside. He bought me a very dressy platinum and sapphire ring, I already had rubies.
A friend gave us ruby coloured Waterford champagne flutes.

ninathenana Mon 16-Jan-17 18:11:39

We had a luxury weekend away. It was H's birthday the day after so a double celebration.
He bought me a pair of ruby and gold earings. Sadly they are so fiddly to do up I've only worn them twice since April '75. I should try and get them altered.

J52 Mon 16-Jan-17 18:17:07

Like Tanith we celebrate the big birthdays and anniversaries by going on a special holiday.
That way there are lots of enduring memories. Mr 52 would be very difficult to buy for, it enough of a strain at Christmas grin.

Greyduster Mon 16-Jan-17 18:53:41

Just after we got married, DH was serving In the Far East with a Gurkha regiment. When he left they gave him a pair of silver cufflinks in the shape of crossed kukris, which were subsequently stolen. For our fortieth I decided to have another pair made for him in gold by a firm in Birmingham. He was absolutely thrilled. It occurred to me that it really should have been a fiftieth present as no rubies were represented, but that was ten years away and, well, who knew. He gave me an eternity ring to replace the one that DS flushed down the toilet when he was a toddler (how he survived being a toddler was touch and go!). For our fiftieth last year, we bought a pair of marine watercolours which we both love.

LadyGracie Mon 16-Jan-17 19:40:24

We had our ruby anniversary in 2010, I bought DH a nice watch, he bought me a ruby and diamond ring. I love gold jewellery

shysal Mon 16-Jan-17 20:36:02

Does your DH enjoy gardening? I bought my parents a dwarf red Magnolia tree.

Coolgran65 Mon 16-Jan-17 21:12:45

Not a ruby..... but she and I have an anniversary this Friday and I ordered a personalized hammer. It says, Happy Anniversary- building since 2007. I've just realized we were married in 2005!!!
Wondering if I should order another one and hope it arrives on time.

Coolgran65 Mon 16-Jan-17 21:13:13

** she = dh

rosesarered Tue 17-Jan-17 10:55:01

Jane grin well done.
chatty take him with you to buy the ring.For him, well, what is he into?Is he a gardener? There is a Ruby Anniversary rose either as a standard or tea rose.You could buy him 6 if you have the room, to be planted all together.If you wanted to splash out, buy a sun dial, then you could have the Ruby roses planted in a circle around it.Thus marking the passage of time with your love...( can't believe I just wrote that, perhaps I could get a job with Hallmark cards.grin)
We didn't buy each other a present for ours ( nothing we wanted) but we had a party and friends/relatives bought us the roses, ruby glassware ( very pretty) and red wine ( even better!)

annsixty Tue 17-Jan-17 11:33:00

We don't do presents and parties, just usually a meal out.
On our Ruby anniversary we went to a local restaurant with our S and his wife and our D and her H and also present were our first 2 GC who were still at the bump stage, one very large and one very small. At least we were OK for sober drivers. Both marriages now over ๐Ÿ˜ข.
About 4 years ago we went to Lake Garda and got chatting over a drink to 2 sisters and their partners. One couple were celebrating their Ruby Wedding. On the day in question she came to breakfast wearing a Ruby ring and made no bones about telling everyone how disappointed she was with the size of the stone. That poor husband, I really felt sorry for him.

chattykathy Tue 17-Jan-17 14:31:09

Thanks for all the ideas. We are going away - just the two of us down to St Ives which we loved going to even before we were married. DH doesn't enjoy gardening but I know he would love a sundial so I think I have the answer! Thanks especially to rosesarered - you could indeed work for Hallmark or write romantic novels!! grin

and Jane I think I will have to do a bit more than hinting - he easily 'forgets'

janeainsworth Tue 17-Jan-17 14:57:19

Enjoy St Ives Kathy. I love it down there sunshinewine

Greyduster Tue 17-Jan-17 18:14:12

Ah, St Ives...... we went there on our 25th!๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ˜Š. Have a lovely time, Kathy.

rosesarered Tue 17-Jan-17 18:56:38

Glad to be of service chatty smile........ and, as the couple walked hand in hand towards the sunset over the bay, they glanced at each other,before he stopped, gathered her to him and whispered tenderly into her pretty little ear " let's get some fish and chips, I'm starving!"
Have a great time in St Ives ( send the forum a postcard)๐Ÿ’ž๐ŸŒท๐ŸŒน๐Ÿฅ€๐Ÿ’–

chattykathy Fri 20-Jan-17 22:52:34

You really are very talented rosesarered I hope you aren't wasting it :-) Thank you all for your good wishes x

Bellanonna Fri 20-Jan-17 23:23:38

You've just made me laugh out loud again, roses !

rosesarered Sat 21-Jan-17 09:16:41

smile