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Being called granny

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Suemag Sat 28-Jan-17 13:45:08

I have grandchildren who all call me granny which I love as my mother and grandmother were also called granny, but on 3 separate occasions last year people I didn't know said when the grandson was calling me how they would hate to be called granny as it would make them feel old etc, I just said I loved it and left it at that but I do think it was incredibly rude and wondered if anyone else had encountered the same problem and knew of an answer.

Hollycat Sun 29-Jan-17 17:35:56

My mother was Grandma but the youngest couldn't sat it and called her Amagnyar which sounds much more difficult and people thought she was foreign! "Granny" sounds just right.

Peaseblossom Sun 29-Jan-17 17:32:40

I don't like granny, gran or grandma as I do think it sounds old. Makes me think of an old lady with silver hair in a bun with glasses, in a rocking chair. Well that is MY opinion before any snaps at me! grin Sorry if it offends anyone. I'm nanny then my first name as is the other grandparent. I called my mum's mum nanny and my children called my mother and husband's mother nanny. If children think nanny sounds a bit babyish when they're older they can always call her nan instead.

Crazygrandma2 Sun 29-Jan-17 16:58:15

I'm grandma and proud to be so. I think that it's a personal thing. Our kids called my mom Grandma and my DH mum wanted to be nana - not a name I personally like.

Lyndie Sun 29-Jan-17 16:42:50

My first grandchild couldn't say grandma but RaRa. So all my six grandchildren call me RaRa now.

pollyperkins Sun 29-Jan-17 16:26:26

Wel I think we all have our own associations. When my first GC was born I was asked what I wanted to be called and opted for Grandma as thAts what I called my own grandmothers and what my c called my mother . I love being grandma! DH on the other hand thought Grandpa sounded old and posh/pompous ( why?) and opted for Grandad - which sounds older to me! Luckily the other grandmother wanted to be Nanny which is the tradition in their famiky and ive never been all that keen on it so thats ok for us All. Whatever you Are happy with is ok!

BBbevan Sun 29-Jan-17 15:31:31

Exactly Bijou or paid help ?

Bijou Sun 29-Jan-17 15:17:53

I was Grandma at the age of 44. Nanny is a female goat.

Sylviann60 Sun 29-Jan-17 15:01:53

I am also a grain and wouldn't like to be called nana or nanny some of my friends say grandson makes me sound old well I am at 70 I'm no spring chicken it's my choice to be called granddaughter so if someone doesn't like it it's not my problem

Skweek1 Sun 29-Jan-17 14:40:33

Entirely up to you and your GC - my Aberdonian family have always used Granny/Grannie, but my Lancastrian husband's grandparents were Grandpa/Grandma and our DS called them Grandpumpa and Grandmama to distinguish between them and Grandma. Ignore stupid people!

Pigglywiggly Sun 29-Jan-17 14:17:03

I am Granny and I chose it. My own children had Nanny and Grandma and I decided to be Granny for ease of identification. It doesn't sound any older than. Grandma, does it?

Elrel Sun 29-Jan-17 14:11:44

Looking at the teenage GC I remember being Franny to one, Ganny to his brother when they were very small. Time passes so quickly and those moments with them are now such precious memories.
Oldest GD told me she referred to me as 'other Nan' when with her mother's family. Now I'm her only Nan and sad for her.

Legs55 Sun 29-Jan-17 14:04:04

I am Nanny, not by choice but when my 1st SGS was born 22 years ago DSD asked me what I wanted to be called, I told her it was her choice, DH was Gramps by choice, I accepted Nanny Lynne as DSD's DM was Nanny Anne. So it stuck.hmm

When my DGS was born I was told by DD that I would be Nanny (although as a grown up 6 year old!!! he wants to call me Nangrin. My DM is Granny. But what's in a name if used with lovesmile

I also hated Nanny as I always think of a goathmm but now I don't mind, I'm often Nanny Grapes as that's DGS's treat when I see him !posh ones from M & S as my DD always saysgrin

Ellie13 Sun 29-Jan-17 13:47:04

Im granny or rather gaggy at the moment ? I love it, I'm 50 and couldn't care less if other people think it sounds old, it's what my gorgeous gd wants to call me and that's all that matters.

kathryn489 Sun 29-Jan-17 13:36:19

I am 39 and love my little grandson calling me granny (or gan-gan as it is at the moment) everyone always tells me oh that's such an old name why does he call you that - same as you my precious granny no longer with us was a role model and I'm proud to have her granny tilte - hope I become as good as her one day in grannyness ??

Swanny Sun 29-Jan-17 13:31:56

A group of neighbours was talking about this same subject and one of them chipped in with 'I don't care what they call me as long as it's not late for my dinner!' grin

Sorry - maybe I should have put that on the thread about Mum's sayings!

Sheilasue Sun 29-Jan-17 13:25:10

I have a 16 year old gd, who calls me nan or nana, I quite like that and nan is a ladies name anyway

Emelle19 Sun 29-Jan-17 13:14:12

I'm called Granny - at my request - and I wouldn't be called anything else.
I love it! smile

mags1234 Sun 29-Jan-17 13:09:28

I'm proud to be called granny!

Lewlew Sun 29-Jan-17 13:02:03

Craicon That's sad for you. I am in same position, even with the foreign inlaws, but my DH's late wife died 6 years before I met him, and now I have been with him longer than his late wife. 25 years! The boys have known me since ages 18 and 21. Of course, they call me by my first name.

The older one has our DGD now and he and her mum asked me which version of grandmother I wished to be called!

We are very involved in their lives and being called grandma (or gramma, grammie), even in third person by them just melts my heart.

Has your husband told his son that it's also about respect, not just an endearment? If you have a good relationship with DSS, he might be urged be more considerate of your feelings. flowers

mischief Sun 29-Jan-17 12:41:12

That's their problem. I'm a Granny and if it's good enough for the Queen it's good enough for me. wink

Lindylou57 Sun 29-Jan-17 12:04:11

I dont care what I am called! All I know is that my lovely daughter is expecting my first very much wanted and loved grandchild. Its been a long hard road for her and her husband because of IVF treatment. Its cost a small fortune because they couldn't have free NHS treatment as he has 2 children from a previous relationship. I cant wait to be someones Grandma, Nan, Granny or whatever!

Elrel Sun 29-Jan-17 11:37:36

By the end of February I expect to be Greatie, as my own Granny asked to be called by my daughter 50 years ago!

pen50 Sun 29-Jan-17 11:35:40

I'm Granny to the children of my stepdaughter. I asked her what she wanted me to be called, and she was quite firm about Granny. My father, still alive, is Granddad. SIL also has stepparents; we're all treated equally to the parents, which is nice.

Elrel Sun 29-Jan-17 11:35:28

I had a maternal Granny and a paternal Grandma myself.
I expected to be Granny but one set of GS called me Nanny or Nan. When all GS (living 100 miles apart) were together for a week by the end they'd swapped over what they called me, to fit in with each other I guess. They soon went back to the originals. I'm now still Nan to one set and and Granny to the other. A recent change is that the teenagers who call me Granny sometimes call me by my first name. - as do their parents. Fine by me.
My friend Barbara has been Baba to her GC since they could talk, she loves it!

Penstemmon Sun 29-Jan-17 11:34:47

We all have our preferences and traditions. I chose to be Nana as mum's mum was Nana to me, my mum was Nana to my DDs so seemed to be a continuation. My dad's mum was Grandma and my DDs called their Dad's mum Grandma but her othe DGC called her Granny.

To me 'Nanny' is a paid employee lile Mary Poppins but I would not comment on any name children called their GPs as long as it was not too rude! My DH is known as Gaga or Gargs! grin