Reading all these posts I am left wondering how on earth a lot of us on here managed to survive working full time and raising a family ....at the same time having elderly parents (one in my case, my mum having died when I was 23) my dad was luckily independent until he died ...didn't want to live with me when I was a single full time working parent, as he said my daughter then aged 2, 'talks too much'..... I had to move for work more than 250 miles away from everyone, friends and the ex in laws ...but like a lot of us, I coped because you have to. There were times I would have loved some support with childcare, but it was not available .......sometimes I really don't know how I did it, but we survived ...my daughter had 'play dates' or tea at friends; houses a lot and at weekends I would return the favour by having those children at mine for maybe a whole day, or afternoon ..holidays were spent at ex in law's caravan, late s I l's lovely house in Surrey, or on holiday with her to Portugal (paid for by me !) .and for the final week or two of the long holidays the YMCA ran a children's play group with outings to various places ! Hated not being able to go o hols with her but whenever I could we had a weekend away or a day trip somewhere. When she was a older teenager she preferred to be home after school alone or with a friend until I got home from work ...she did all the ironing, cooked the dinner, cleaned the house (I never asked or expected her to !) for which she was paid (she ever asked to be but I was grateful !)as a result she went off to Uni totally able to rely on herself ...only trouble was she was so independent by then that I haven't seen her since ! still love her though and think about her every day !!
Talking about grans doing childcare ...when my late s I l had a full time nanny (she was ill but they were wealthy !) the nanny had regular lunch dates and afternoon groups with other nannies (this was a wealthy part of Surrey)...wonder if something like that could be a good idea for grannies to think about ,.small ones happy, grans meeting friends for a chat and a cuppa ....has anyone ever thought about that ? I found out from the internet that my daughter now runs things for the NCT in Berkshire ...lots of things organised for mums and babies ,,,,might get some ideas from them for grans and babies ! Also when I as a stay home mum years ago the local Church had mums n toddlers services, play groups, outings by coach ....ask if you go to a Church or the WI if anyone knows of anything ....I am sure grans would be welcome with the toddlers as well as young mums ! I did read the article in the Mail and have to say it left me somewhat relieved I live so far away !