My eldest was exactly the same. I used to dread any neighbours speaking to him, in case they thought he was rude. At one open day, a teacher told me how thrilled she was, because he had actually spoken to her without being prompted. He was 8 and she had been teaching him for almost 2years.
He is in his 40s now and still very reserved. He cannot make small talk. So avoids situations where he will meet lots of strangers. He was quite anxious as a child, but a different personality with people he felt comfortable with.
I would just go with it at the moment but maybe consider something like acting lessons when she is older. This gives children the tools to pretend to be confident.
My son wanted to go into the RAF, and I was concerned about his shyness not allowing him to show his potential. I got a coach for him, who,taught him some amazing body language skills which put him in command of his nervousness. She also said something to him, which has stuck with me till this day.
“Say little, and you will be heard, listen to others and you will be respected”.
Hope this helps.
Good Morning Saturday 20th April 2024