Oh dear! This all boils down to the fact that those of us who grew up in a family that made a fuss of birthdays, miss being the centre of attention on that one special day of the year.
Those who grew up in families like my father and my DH were birthdays weren't all that important, never do get what the fuss is all about.
Added to that, that in most marriages it is the woman's job to keep track of birthdays, anniversaries, buying presents and writing Christmas cards, so we wives don't really stand much chance of our birthdays being remembered.
I am a member of the team that shamelessly reminds DH of my birthday, his birthday and our wedding anniversary at the beginning of the relevant months. Christmas he does manage to remember, so I have hopes of us both getting into Heaven one day!
I feel for all of you who feel hurt at having your birthdays ignored and all of you who have lost the ones who made a fuss of you.
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