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Is there someone you want to say thank you to?

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Applegran Sat 25-Aug-18 10:09:28

I wish I could say thank you to the midwife who looked after me when I was in labour with my daughter. I remember knowing that if you push too soon, it does damage and I said umpteen times: "I want to push! Can I push? I'm pushing!" Every time she patiently told me it was OK - never once did she say "I just answered that!" Her kindness made a huge difference to me - and of course I cannot find her now, decades later, to say a proper thank you. Is there someone you would like to say 'Thank you' to, but who you've lost touch with, or maybe they have died - but you still feel grateful?

M0nica Thu 06-Sep-18 16:59:30

Last week when on my daily walk on the footpaths round the village, I pulled my phone out of my pocket and my keys came too, without me realising until I got home. I didn't have the energy to re-walk the walk for about an hour and when I did, I couldn't find them.

Fortunately, the Co-op in the village is the centre for everything going on and on the following morning DH asked if any keys had been handed in when he bought the paper - and there they were! The finder left no name or contact details. so I cannot thank them.

Getting new house keys would have been irritating and time consuming but not that expensive. But a new car key was going to cost me in excess of £100!!!!!

So if you live on occupied north Berkshire and found some keys on a footpath near the A34 and handed them in at the Co-op - Thank you so much flowers

Farmnanjulie Thu 06-Sep-18 15:32:20

Yes,I would like to say thank you to Burstead critical care ward ,Basildon hospital , Essex,I contracted sepsis after surgery and collapsed at home from liver failure,when admitted I was told another two or three hours alone at home ,I would have died,had cannula in chest for antibiotics,and they worked their butt of to keep me alive, I had 24 hour care with procedures every half hour,they did everything ,all through the night,were always caring and re assuring ,and were kindness itself, the microbiologist came down to explain he had to make a unique mix of antibiotics and they were the strongest he had ever made,hence having a tune in,but they were determined to get me through it!
After 8 weeks in hospital I came out !! Totally against the odds! Thank you to them!

mothertrucker52 Tue 28-Aug-18 22:34:20

My man's former girlfriend who took him for a ride, made him miserable then buggered off, enabling me to move in and lick his wounds (so to speak!), her loss is my gain, she must be nuts to have thought she could find something better

cornergran Mon 27-Aug-18 20:57:13

We’ve experienced two serious car accidents. In one we came pretty close to losing our lives. The police officers attending on both occasions were so kind and efficient they made frightening experiences far more bearable. I’m not at all sure we thanked any of them at the time and so our heartfelt thanks to them all.

Purplepoppies Mon 27-Aug-18 20:08:36

If like to thank the territorial army for rescuing me from a very bad situation when I was 16. I can't say more, it would be too outing. ?

ChaosIncorporated Mon 27-Aug-18 18:56:32

winifred ...it certainly was at Stoke Mandeville. What a small world!
Do you also remember SN Annie N, and Sister Vernon?
They were a phenomenal nursing team...and kept me more or less sane.

(sorry OP....I didn't intend a thread hijack!)

chrissyh Mon 27-Aug-18 18:50:49

In the days when we stayed in hospital for 7 days after giving birth and before the days of paternity leave, the hospital I was in had one evening during the week when visiting was father's only. That particular evening my husband was on night shift, having chosen to take holiday when the baby & I came home. I was feeling sorry for myself, longing to go home and being the only one not to have a visitor, when the nurse said a friend had come to see me and, although she wasn't allowed into the ward, she was waiting in the visitor's room. I was so pleased to see her. She was a single mum with a young son who she had to get looked after and she didn't drive so had to get 2 buses to see me. She had gone to great inconvenience to do this kindness which I have never forgotten.

winifred01 Mon 27-Aug-18 18:43:53

Chaos incorporated
This must have been at Stoke Mandeville Hospital- am I right? Pam was very well thought of,an excellent nurse. I worked there at the same time but in a different specialty. So nice to see her mentioned.

Yellowmellow Mon 27-Aug-18 18:19:40

My Auntie, who has now passed away. She was sweet, kind, caring and just taught me so much, and I loved her so much

GrandmaCornwall Mon 27-Aug-18 17:01:23

Some of theses posts deserve to be on other social media sides as well as here on Gransnet. We don’t say thank you or give enough praise and regret it later. We need a platform to make amends. Thank you Gransnet for being the catalyst.

Clarepetal Mon 27-Aug-18 16:55:47

This is so heartwarming, I love it.

NanKate Mon 27-Aug-18 14:31:20

What a wonderful thread.

To my oldest friend and her husband who knew I was in a bad way trying to support my DS and 2 GSs through a dreadful divorce. It was the day of the Royal Wedding they phoned me at 6.50am knowing I was alone as DH had gone on a mercy mission to DS. They said they were coming to watch the wedding with me and would bring the lunch. They then drove 140 miles to be with me. I sobbed when I saw them but was soon laughing at all the fashions.

Back to midwives. Only one was nice to me. One particularly nasty one said ‘stop screaming you are making more noise than the whole ward’. A year or so later a doctor saw my medical notes and said ‘you must have had a difficult birth as your son‘s spine was pressing on your spine. He came out the wrong way’. I felt vindicated but I never dared have another child.

Buddly Mon 27-Aug-18 13:44:45

I’d like to thank the ambulance crew who came when I fell from my horse, the helicopter crew who jumped out from about 20feet height because it was too difficult to land closeby and the brilliant doctors and nurses in hospital. Such dedicated and hard working people ???

jennyvg Mon 27-Aug-18 13:05:15

My lovely Mum & Dad neither of them had the perfect childhood, my Dad's Mum died when he was a baby, & my Mum's mum was an unmarried mother in 1919 so not the best for either of them but they gave me the most wonderful of lives I couldn't have been happier when growing up, I think of them & miss them every day.

Irenelily Mon 27-Aug-18 12:49:10

My grateful thanks to the passers by who helped my husband when his mobile scooter turned over on him, last March. They lifted it off, called the ambulance, gave him coats to lie on, phoned me and when I arrived waited with me the 2 hours it took the ambulance to get there. Sadly although he survived the operation he died later in hospital. One of those kind ladies came to his funeral and is still in touch.

PatsyF Mon 27-Aug-18 12:37:13

To my late mother. Like a lot of children/adults who take parents for granted. Never really thanked her for great things she did for me.?

dogsmother Mon 27-Aug-18 12:03:25

This thread is the best!
It also shows us that the little random acts of kindness we do for people are so very important in their lives and not to be underestimated.
So we must all just continue to be good neighbours as we never know when things might befall us.

nipsmum Mon 27-Aug-18 11:56:39

To all the staff in the nursing home where I worked,who were there for me when my husband of 20 years walked out and
abandoned me and my girls are. THank you all. You listened, you supported, you cared. I would not have managed without you all.

Willow10 Mon 27-Aug-18 11:54:24

I feel really guilty now for hijacking this lovely post with complaints about midwives! blush So many lovely, uplifting stories and it is a timely reminder to make sure that we try to thank people whilst we still can. flowers

GreenGran78 Mon 27-Aug-18 11:46:49

I would like to thank my son’s Australian MIL for being a second mum to him. My husband had a stroke during one of our visits. It was right in the middle of her birthday party - making it a day she, and we, will never forget. Her husband was recovering from heart surgery at the time, but the kindness and help we received from the whole family will never be forgotten.

Craftycat Mon 27-Aug-18 11:46:24

My best friend who died 2 years ago. We did not know the end was so imminent although she did.
I would have liked to thank her for all the support she gave me over difficult times & tell her how much her friendship meant to me.
I know she knew & I did say it at the time but I'd have liked her to know how very much it meant to me.
Life lesson- always say thank you to those who are important to you.
I miss her every day.

Brigidsdaughter Mon 27-Aug-18 11:37:35

Maura (?)Fitzgibbon Teacher my primary school teacher for 3 years, 3rd,4th and 5th class mid to late 60's. Kind and thoughtful. Introduced us to classical music and French which was not on the curriculum I'm sure. I have tried tracing you via the convent without success.
Thank you so much. I've never forgotten you and hope if you don't read this that someone who knows you does.

jocork Mon 27-Aug-18 11:19:49

The people who helped me were thanked at the time but still deserve a mention. On New Year's day in 1985 I was in Shropshire with my boyfriend and had an accident, skidding on black ice in a country lane. My Ford Fiesta slid slowly into a Volvo and you can guess which car came off worst! Fortunately no-one was hurt but my car was no longer driveable. We rolled it down the hill to a car park outside a pottery where we were able to phone the AA. The family there were so kind. They took us into their home, gave us meals with them while we waited for the AA, first to attend, then send a truck to transport us back to Oxfordshire. Members of their family took my boyfriend up to the Stiperstones nearby , where we'd been planning to go for a walk, while I waited for the AA. We were with them all day and I'll never forget their kindness. My boyfriend returned some months later and bought some mugs from the pottery which I still have - boyfriend is now my ex husband! If you are in that area do visit TankerVille Pottery and Gallery at Pennerley. They still exist - I googled them - and sell lovely pottery, arts and crafts and are lovely kind people.

gillyknits Mon 27-Aug-18 11:19:13

I’d like to thank the builder who rescued me when I had an accident on a sledge. I was only about seven and the sledge tipped over. The runner had cut my leg and he bandaged me up and took me to hospital . He then went and collected my mum and stayed with her until I had been stitched and was was ready to go home. He then drove us both home.
I think my Mum gave him a packet of cigarettes to say thank you!

Saggi Mon 27-Aug-18 11:16:03

Thank you to my maternal grandmother... who came to our home .....after my somewhat feckless mum ...had walked out on us , leaving me (2) my brothers (3 and 6) and my sister 13. My dad HAD to work those days so nan came to take over. She wasn't in best of health herself but she picked up the reigns ....she was strict about manners but nothing else....she NEVER raised a hand to us , and she was the kindest woman. I wish I'd spent more time listening to her !! My mum came back after I was 4/5 but nan stayed on . She died when I was 16 , and I'd had to do most of her her caring since I was 13. I never moaned about it! We all owed her our heartfelt thanks. I only wish I could remember if I ever told her how much I loved her. I hope she knew anyway!.