I have had a VERY difficult relationship with my DIL since the day we met. She had caused problems with all the family. My son and DIL stopped contact with my GD when she was about 11 months old and I didn’t see her for over a year so was not really part of my second GDs life from the start. Second GD was VERY clingy to my son (DIL seems to have little to do with the kids re outings/swimming/clubs etc) she’s a social worker.
Anyway I was told I could FaceTime the girls at 5.30 on a Tuesday night and talk to them in the bath. Which I did for a while but found I was getting terribly anxious because I forgot one night and got told off. My daughter then had a son (I was with her when he was born) and I have had him stay over every week since he was born because my daughter brings him every week. My son then wanted me to attend gym on a Sunday morning at 9 am 20 miles away. I work full time all week and part time so found this quite restricting every week. ... I’m never asked to school things or kept up to date with anything and they have now stopped contact again because when I arranged to meet with eldest GD in June, I met them in the park and had my husband and GS with me. My son was furious that I wasn’t spending time exclusively with GD.
Anyway (sorry for long post)
My daughter and son take the Grandchildren swimming on a Friday night and my son isn’t going tonight. I dropped off Advent calendars to the house yesterday and would like to just let the girls know that they are from me and Grampy. I want to just pop to the pool - I’ll be having GS overnight so could just turn up. But I feel so much anxiety about this. I don’t want the girls to get upset but I miss them soooooo much. Daughter says perhaps text son and say I’m popping in but I REALLY can’t cope with doing that.
Any advice please
Sorry so long :-(
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