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Husband left her

(58 Posts)
trisher Sat 05-Jan-19 12:35:05

She should look for a local Law Centre and /or find out if a local solicitor offers free advice. Some will give half an hour.

Elegran Sat 05-Jan-19 12:29:36

I believe most solicicitors will give a half-hour free consultation where they will advise you. Obviously they won't act for you without getting paid for their work, but they might tell you what your legal position is, and what your best plan of action might be.

MissAdventure Sat 05-Jan-19 12:17:55

I think gingerbread have a helpline, and there is the citizens advice bureau.
Is she aware of the benefits system, and how it works?

Houseseller Sat 05-Jan-19 12:14:08

Thank you, unfortunately she is so much in debt she can’t afford solicitor

Luckygirl Sat 05-Jan-19 12:11:49

Need a solicitor and also look at Housing Benefit.

Iam64 Sat 05-Jan-19 11:46:52

Yes, she needs to see a solicitor who specialises in separation/divorce issues. An internet search will help her find a specialist. Most good firms will also have a mediator who can assist in discussion about contact, residence and financial contributions.
As trisher said, it will help if she sets a boundary around the things she discusses with her mother in law, to avoid a fall out. What a tough time - legal advice essential but legal aid no longer available shockingly.

trisher Sat 05-Jan-19 11:43:38

She needs a good solicitor. Tell her to ask around if she knows anyone who has had a good divorce settlement or go on line and do some research. She shouldn't just pick one out the phone book. They will need to go to mediation anyway where they will discuss financial matters and he won't get everything wants. He will have to keep a roof over his children's heads. She should talk to the mother in law but try not to discuss his behaviour as it's something they will probably never agree on.

Houseseller Sat 05-Jan-19 11:26:52

Good morning all, I wonder if anyone can give my step granddaughter any practical advice. Her husband of 6 years has just informed her he is leaving her. They have 3 small children under 7 years and live in a privately rented house costing £800 per month. They are in debt and husband has run up her credit card buying hobby items. She works at Amazon to help out the finances but relies on Mother in law for childcare. Her husband is moving in with his mother and is suggesting he has joint parenting to avoid paying maintenance. She is at her wits end as doesn’t earn much and won’t be able to keep up with the rent. As her mother in law looks after the children she doesn’t want to fall out with her. Any practical advice will be welcomed