Things you decided not to post but on reflection wished you had

Hi boat thank you for your kind words. I raised my head above the parapet so no going back now.

boat Thank you

I find it annoying if I decide to delete an already-typed post rather than add to a thread.
I've usually spent some time trying to get my words in order and am generally conscious that I "should" be doing something else (!). This means that I tend to see the deletion as a waste of time and effort.
If it's something I feel I have something personal to add, I might DM someone instead.

If my eyes are having a good day, I try to read all the comments before (if) I post and so often I feel everyone has said it all.

Dear Wobbles,

Please press the post button next time. If you are agreeing with me that's great; if you are saying something else you might make me think.

I have been like this and am still a bit nervous, but recently I've become much bolder, especially on Twitter. With Facebook I'll post controversial stuff on Groups, but not on my Homepage for fear of upsetting people I know.

For all the reasons that so many have already written. Especially where other posters put it so much more succinctly than I ever seem to be able to do.

I agree with the above posts and always feel that the more varied opinions I read the better understanding I have of things and I do try and contribute where I can with my own experiences if I think they might help someone.

Haven’t regretted posting anything (or not posting) but wish I was better able to express my thoughts as I wouldn’t want anyone to think I was being unkind in my posts.

I find the political threads riveting with some of the strong views on all sides but I rarely comment as I don’t understand the dyed in the wool mentality of staunch Labour/Tory etc. I almost envy people who have that belief and I liken it to a religious faith - it must be reassuring to have that certainty in life.

Sometimes if the topic is something I feel strongly about I don't post as I find it stressful. Although GN is teaching me to see other perspectives.
And I often don't comment as I can't think of the right words to express what I want to say. Some people are very good at expressing well thought out views on GN. which I enjoy reading. And think, Why can't I do that!

Gramaretto has a good point: it can be helpful to write down what you think you like to say, and read it back. Quite often I think, "Is that really how I feel?" or "Is that really something I want to share?" and delete it, but the act of writing it down and reviewing it has helped me clarify my thoughts.

I stick to the lighter posts and if I think I can help someone who is asking a question in my area of expertise. I stay off the politics as it often gets personal and aggressive. I have thought many times about leaving as Gransnet is not as much fun as it used to be but there are some nice people here and I have made some good friends at meet ups.

I sometimes don't press the post button because I think nobody's interested in my thoughts.

rosecarmel

You totally got what I was trying to convey and I got your message.

I am too accepting of poor service from anyone from big companies to my local MP.

The one time I put up a big fight (when my energy company suddenly decided to charge me £2,000 for totally spurious reasons) I ended up caving in (I paid £265 because I was about to have major surgery and didn't want to leave a mess for my family if things went wrong).

Yes! You are right. In future I will be polite but firm and stand up for myself. Thankyou!

After rereading the original post, I see that I thought boat was encouraging others to "not" hit the delete button but share some ideas that we might otherwise be reluctant to sometimes .. so I did .. Not a pivotal moment history! But I put myself out there .. :D

I often hold back from posting. Mainly because I know exactly what to say in my head but by the time it gets to my fingers it sounds all wrong

I agree Jalima that it can be therapeutic just to write it down. Then I preview it and often don't post. I don't think it's wasted if you have worked through an idea.
Then someone else writes just what you were thinking but clearly and succinct.

Bathsheba I'm glad you did decide to post-

My effort was to touch on some subjects that can sometimes cause one to pause prior to hitting the Post Message button- Or delete completely- Like injustice, politics, so forth-

Sometimes, I think, it's worth saving the message, setting it aside and then rewriting it if it needs to be toned down- Especially if it's truly a subject that is in need of attention and/or consideration-

It feels good to type something just to get it off my chest then hit delete- But as luck would have it, the subject presents itself again, providing me with yet another opportunity to share what I'm thinking ..

In reply to the OP - all the time - too numerous to detail here. Discretion is a lost art for so many nowadays.

An interesting post rosecarmel and one I'm sure many of us can relate to. But I'm puzzled as to its relevance to this thread ?

And I nearly didn't post this....

When Netflix raised their price, yet again, I canceled- When Hulu charged my card after I had canceled, I sought a refund and received it- When Walmart refused to refund my credit card but issued a gift card instead, I stopped shopping at Walmart- In short, I no longer approach such situations passively, but instead take action and be persistent- No need to be mean, simply persistent- Amazon repeatedly delivered my parcels to a neighbor- I don't pay my neighbor to deliver the packages to me, I pay Amazon- I received gift cards for the inconvenience as well as refunds for the cost of my items- They now deliver the packages correctly- Facebook exploited its members by way of sharing their personal information, including personal conversations via messages and Messenger- Our environment is dying- We can work together to make changes that benefit every living thing, and do so peacefully- It's possible- But one needs to speak up and take action-

I'm sure I've written enough to oust myself, if anyone was that interested.
What worries me is that other people may recognise themselves or their family.
I would hate to write details of other peoples' lives where they might offend or upset.

I write and delete posts all the time. I often get things off my chest that are bothering me (usually about how people are being badly treated) and then realise I don't actually need to inflict my angst on others. I recently wrote one such post after a very frustrating day when I was really upset and I did post it - and lovely Gransnetters saw it for what it was and were very kindly in their responses.

I have held back if I thought that a response or post might make my situation or problem public. I am aware that posts appear on face book and Mumsnet so that several huge worries I have and for which it might have helped to gain others opinions, have not seen the light of day due to a fear of them becoming known to family or friends! I am sure I am not alone with this one

Often .mostly because my post could be misread in some way . I can't remember many examples as there are too many but one particular thread that's running at the moment that we are not sure is genuine or not is one where I could have replied but have avoided.

Sometimes it can make you feel better to type out a post, even if you end up deleting it.

and, like aggie , I sometimes think, why did I post that?