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Savannasnan Sat 13-Apr-19 19:06:52

Thanks for your feedback. I will keep the album out of sight and maybe one day my DD will say do you have any old photos of my old wedding to show DGD.

Septimia Sat 13-Apr-19 19:04:51

It is a bit of a dilemma. My DS is divorced with a daughter. When he remarried he gave me the wedding album from his first marriage to keep for my DGD. The first wedding and subsequent celebrations were enjoyable, so I wrote an account of them for DGD, feeling that she should know about them. Everything to do with the wedding of her mother to my DS is packaged safely together for DGD to have when she grows up so that she has a record of it if she wants to keep it. I think it's her right to know about her parents.

Tabbycat Sat 13-Apr-19 18:24:34

I kept all the photos of my first wedding. My first husband was an alcoholic and had an affair with my best friend. We separated and then after two years divorced.

Then I met and married my second husband and we had two children. I never hid the photos from them; they always knew that I'd been married before. As the girls grew up they loved looking through my old albums of me as a child, my first boyfriend, me as a student, my first wedding - all part of my past.

Perhaps your daughter might tell your grandchild about her first wedding one day and then she might want to see the photos.

callgirl1 Sat 13-Apr-19 18:22:35

2 of my daughters are divorced and remarried. They`ve both destroyed all their wedding photos from their first weddings, plus any other photos of their ex husbands, and don`t like my having kept all my copies. My explanation is that those photos are part of our family`s history, and I hate the idea of destroying them. Probably after I kick the bucket they`ll go through all my photos and lots will be destroyed then.

aggie Sat 13-Apr-19 18:13:16

oh ! just as well to delete him then !
Girls love to look at photos of "The olden days" so she will love it in the future , and maybe when your DD is not as raw she might like to see herself

ninathenana Sat 13-Apr-19 18:09:21

Sorry cross posts

ninathenana Sat 13-Apr-19 18:08:50

aggie OP says her new partner is DGD father.

Savannasnan Sat 13-Apr-19 18:08:10

Hi Aggie thanks for your reply. No he isn't her father. My daughter's new partner is her Dad. There is no connection.

ninathenana Sat 13-Apr-19 18:07:33

I would keep it.
I would put it away where DGD can't find it, until such time when and if mummy tells her about the past. I think DD would be upset if DGD found out through you but in 10 or so years time DGD may like to see it.

aggie Sat 13-Apr-19 18:02:41

It is your album , I would keep it somewhere she won't see it till she is older , I wouldn't have taken him out of the pictures , is he your granddaughters Father ? she will be more confused at him not being there in the pictures

Savannasnan Sat 13-Apr-19 17:59:04

Hi all this is my first post. My Daughter's first marriage didn't work out sadly. As an amateur photographer I took loads of photos of the wedding. My daughter is now with a new partner and they have a daughter. Our much loved granddaughter. My daughter destroyed all her old wedding photos. Understandably as he cheated on her. But I still have my photos in an album. I have chucked any photos of my ex SIL but kept photos of my daughter and her Dad. My MIL has sinced passed away but is in a group photo. My dilemma is should my granddaughter find album would she be confused that her Mum is with another man or should I just bin it? My daughter did look lovely and had a horse and carriage. All documented in my album.