I hope you can all help me. So my grandaughter is 16 and I adore her.
Ever since she was little I have looked after her and loved every minute.
Endless sleepovers and shopping trips since she was 4.
She is quite a deep thinker and if I'm honest can be quite sultry at times.
But no matter what I have always managed to cheer her up and spoilt her rotten but have loved every minute!
I was on my own for many years and we enjoyed a weekend together once a month. This involved a takeaway, chats, laughs and shopping trips.
I lost my mum just under 2 years ago. It rocked the whole family m. Mum was the pinnacle of our family and a second mum to both my girls and great grandparent to my grandchildren.
A wonderful lady!
After she died, my grandchildren kept me going. Sacha my grandaughter would come and stay etc.
Within 6 months of mum passing I met someone and we have since got a house together.
He is a very kind man and knows how much my family mean to me. He has been very generous and accommodating. My grandaughter has had endless shopping trips with us. Meals etc.
Recently she has been behaving very badly at home. Shouting at her parents, getting detention at school for not completing homework and bad attitude.
Six weeks ago my daughter was at her wits end and asked if my grandaughter could stay for the weekend and she had taken her phone off her too.
She really needed a break.
Of course I was fine with it but sacha was upset as she wanted to be at home.
I assured her we would sort it out but obviously explained how important it is to not be so angry at home and school. I asked her if there was anything wrong such as bullying, boys. Drugs etc. Sacha isnt a teen that goes out. She doesn't hang about the street or anything. She works every sat and has odd shopping trips,with friends but that's about it.
Anyway the second night she was with us she got really upset and said she wanted to return home. All of a sudden she ran out of the house.
I was terrified. My partner jumped in the car and we followed her and convinced her to get in the car. I rang my daughter and she said we would have to bring her home.
We did and since then sacha hasn't wanted to stay with me or anything. She has become really distant!
I am still grieving for my mum, never mind my grandaughter..
While she was with me I was really sympathetic and didn't scold her at all.
She has come for tea with her mum but won't spend any time alone with me. We had had a shopping trip arranged for the Easter hols and she txt me to cancel.
I was and still am devastated!
What can u do?? My daughter just says. Mum shes just a teenager but I'm losing sleep over it!
Advice much appreciated.
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