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Wedding gift for nephew

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whatkatydid Fri 03-May-19 11:49:46

Hello. Our nephew is getting married in July. He and his girlfriend have been together for years, they're in their late twenties. Bit of background, we haven't seen him since his teens, mostly because of distance, but we hear all his news from his mum, my sis-in-law, who we also don't see much of because of distance, but do keep in touch with. We won't be invited to the wedding, which is absolutely fine as they're having a really small do for immediate family and close friends in a local pub, which I think is a great idea - no problems there! We would like to send them a small gift, though, just to say we're thinking of them and to wish them lots of love and luck. I'd rather not just send money, but I'm not sure what might be appropriate. Does anyone have any ideas? Thanks. smile

SaraC Sat 04-May-19 11:56:59

Had the same issue with two of my nieces. I don’t know if you’re a ‘stitcher’, or have the time, but there are some lovely wedding day sampler kits for sale on the internet - loads of different designs and styles to chose from. I made a framed sampler for one and made the sampler for the other into a cushion. Both were delighted (thank goodness!)

Helennonotion Sat 04-May-19 11:45:05

The Royal Mint have some gift coin presentations of the current year. Might be a nice keepsake of the year they were married.

Mrsdof Sat 04-May-19 11:26:03

How about a voucher from Buyagift where they can choose a day out somewhere, i.e. a boat trip, afternoon tea, or theatre trip etc.

David1968 Sat 04-May-19 10:39:17

I agree fully with Mawbroonsback. You can never go wrong with (good quality) big cuddly bathsheets. And perhaps matching hand towels and flannels, depending on how much you want to spend. I've given such towels to a few couples - years later one couple mentioned that they were still using the towels and loved them.

Goblinsattackin Sat 04-May-19 10:36:39

Ask their Mum, she'll almost certainly have a ready answer for you. They will probably have had the conversation "we don't want or expect any gifts but if anyone asks........"

burnel Sat 04-May-19 10:24:42

Nice photo frame, i have given named roses always goes down well.

ReadyMeals Sat 04-May-19 10:11:16

Usually people have a list lodged with a well known retail store. Guests request the details (if he is polite he won't give them to you until you ask) then you interact with the store by phone or internet to select the gift you will give, and the store deals with wrapping it and sending it on your behalf

moorlikeit Sat 04-May-19 10:01:33

I haven't read through all the ideas so this may have been mentioned before but what about a day spa break for both of them? They are very popular with younger folk and a real treat.

Dillyduck Sat 04-May-19 09:59:44

How about your own recipe book, of all your favourite dishes. I was once given a present list, by the time it reached me only boring things like basins were left. I bought a nest of Pyrex basins, and with each one I left a simple recipe which the groom could cook for his bride. Years later I learned that they were still using some of my recipes.

4allweknow Sat 04-May-19 09:58:36

Depends how much you are thinking of spending. There are some lovely photo frames around. I recently purchased on on line, hand made pewter, for £47.00 Had it gift wrapped and sent direct to bride. According to her mother, the couple were ecstatic as not a household item. There are plenty others less expensive.

BusterTank Sat 04-May-19 09:57:11

Vouchers are the best thing , they can buy what they like and the gift won't end up in the charity shop .

phoenix Sat 04-May-19 09:55:44

If they have a garden there is a lovely rose called Wedding Day.

NanaAnnie Sat 04-May-19 09:49:40

Do they have a gift list somewhere? That way, you can gift something that they really want.

okimherenow Sat 04-May-19 09:49:36

We gave to similar couple a gift voucher for a 1 night B&B at a posh Dartmoor hotel ... £125...
They could use and add to it ... They seemed very pleased.

BazingaGranny Sat 04-May-19 09:45:06

Perhaps just ask your sister in law or the happy couple themselves if there is anything specific or if they have a list at a well known shop? I think money and a lovely card is also ideal.

There are so many unwanted gifts going hopefully to charity shops, possibly into landfill or just cluttering everywhere, that I really don’t want to give (or receive) unwanted gifts, knick knacks or whatever.

Anything with their name on might be regarded as fabulous or frightful!

Hope they have a lovely wedding ?✅

annep1 Sat 04-May-19 09:40:28

I'm with Kittylester on this. Bottle of champagne or a wine selection. Always appreciated. We got gifts like this when we married few years ago and already lived in our present home.

leyla Sat 04-May-19 09:32:08

A wooden chopping board or cheese board with their names on?

CarlyD7 Sat 04-May-19 09:30:24

Would definitely start by asking if they have a wedding list somewhere - some people do it at John Lewis, others at M&S, etc. Or if you do decide to send them something, you can always enclose a gift receipt (so that they can swop it for something they need)?

Torquoise5 Sat 04-May-19 09:28:51

I would get them a voucher for a meal or spa break.

Humbertbear Sat 04-May-19 08:39:31

I think vouchers are best although when friends of ours married (second time for both) they asked for board games.

Starlady Sat 04-May-19 01:56:17

Agree about the voucher. It's money - and yet, not money. Also agree with just choosing something from their list if they have one. As Jane says, it's something they really want, so you're automatically ok.

NotAGran55 Fri 03-May-19 18:50:20

A JL gift voucher - you can’t go wrong with that IMO .

whatkatydid Fri 03-May-19 16:23:55

Some really great ideas here! Thank you all.

MiniMoon Fri 03-May-19 16:06:05

I'm still using the last of the towels we received as wedding presents. We got married 38 years ago. ??

MawBroonsback Fri 03-May-19 15:26:04

Fluffy white bath sheets from The White Company or John Lewis - always useful and a touch of luxury to have new bath towels. Add in hand towels, flannels etc if you are feeling flush, but two top quality bath sheets would make an ideal present IMO