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Alone time with grandparents.

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notanan2 Mon 17-Jun-19 22:45:09

YANBU I would never ask for "unsupervised time" with anybody elses children including family and kids I DO have overnight for other reasons.

Weird thing to ask

I blame facebook. They prob think all other grandparents have this set up all the time but they dont! And when grandparents DO have GCs without the parents there its because it happens organically, and not because they want the GCs parents to NOT be there too IYKWIM

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NanaandGrampy Mon 17-Jun-19 22:43:07

What’s your issue with them spending time with your child without you ? You obviously trust them to babysit.

Children automatically turn to their Mum if she’s there so if you’re not the child gets a sense of being able to depend on their grandparents too .

It doesn’t have to be a long visit but I don’t see how a couple of hours hurts . I’ve had all 4 of my grandchildren since they were days old . My home is familiar to them so in the event of an emergency they are happy and comfortable to come here . Perhaps it would be sensible todo something similar for your child in case of an unexpected event ?

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frenchfrogz Mon 17-Jun-19 22:37:03

I rarely need help with childcare, my DP and I mostly handle it between ourselves.
My parents recently expressed they’d like alone time with my DS as they don’t feel they have much of a bond. This did shock me a little as I visit once, sometimes twice a week.
I haven’t yet allowed anybody to take him for a day out and they feel I don’t trust them. I try to explain that he’s young and that will come when I’m ready.
If we ever do need help with childcare I have only ever asked them, so they should know I trust them, but I just don’t see the need to drop him off just for the sake of it.
They asked for once a week “unsupervised visit” it’s all starting to feel like a custody arrangement. Everyone in the family seems to agree with them, but I really don’t want to live on someone else’s schedule.
Is this normal? Should I be giving them alone time? I don’t know, I just feel so defeated because it’s causing an awful atmosphere.

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