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coleen21 Thu 27-Jun-19 22:38:30

thank you everyone for picking me up out of my dark place this morning! i feel much better this afternoon!

we are happy for him and his new job. i will focus on that. GoodMama, thank you for the advice to focus on him when we call. great advice! this move will enable them to get a much larger house than before, which they desperately need!

thanks, again!

Grammaretto Thu 27-Jun-19 19:32:30

The love you have for each-other is no respecter of distance!
Think yourself lucky that you have such a good relationship with your DS and his daughter.
Sorry to hear about the no contact DD. sad

GoodMama Thu 27-Jun-19 19:12:10

Hugs to you COleen21! I agree with PP - say "see you later" (it's not goodbye), then have a good cry.

Then! Go out on a fun date with your husband. Make some fun plans for the summer and fall with him that are just about the two of you.

Don't contact your son. Let him settle in. Moving is stressful. When he's settled he'll give you a call and catch you up on what life is like on their new adventure.

Be happy for him and his family. Ask about his job, the house, the city... and only briefly ask about his daughter. Be sure to show the most interest in him. Then get off the phone because you have plans (and actually have plans).

Be a busy busy bee!

Change can be exhilarating if you take control of the only thing you can control - you! smile

crazyH Thu 27-Jun-19 18:47:24

Cry as much as you want but only, today. Tomorrow, try to look at it like this.....they're going to be in the same country. I know it's 3000 miles away, but the earth is shrinking with cheap and direct flights. And then there's FaceTime, Skype, phones etc . I guess they are moving with work, for their future ? So, let them take with them your love and best wishes.
Sorry to hear about the situation with your daughter. I also have a difficult relationship with mine.
Take care xx

Daisymae Thu 27-Jun-19 18:37:58

I guess you will develop a new relationship, maybe see them less frequently but for slightly longer? Nothing stays the same, that's life. It will take a bit of time but you will adjust.

coleen21 Thu 27-Jun-19 17:35:26

thank you. today is just a rough day.

yes, we've built a solid relationship with her over the past 6 years. this grandparent love is really something, isn't it?

we will miss her terribly. and my husband (her Paka) and i are fairly tech savvy so, i know we'll figure this thing out.

i just need to cry some more!

BlueBelle Thu 27-Jun-19 17:05:35

Of course there will be life after they move it will be tough but you will adjust and there are so many ways to keep in touch nowadays
It’s obviously something they feel is a necessary move so just wish them well with a big old smile have your cry in private then make some plans as to how you will keep in touch with your precious granddaughter

She’s 6 years old and you ve seen her every three weeks since she was born, how lucky are you Distance won’t break that bond I know how it works five out of seven of my grandkids live overseas ?

coleen21 Thu 27-Jun-19 16:58:11

hey everybody, i need your help,

my son announced last week he's moving his family, including our only grandchild, 6 yr. old granddaughter, 3000 miles away. we are in the states. it's is literally from one coast to the other.

right now they are a 2 hour drive away, which we've done every 3 weeks since she was born.

while we don't get to spend as much time as we'd like with her we are quite close and she grieves each time we leave.

this move has me quite upset and i don't know quite how to deal with it. i will miss not only my little girl, but our son as well.

we have one other child, but she is in europe and we've had no contact with her for over 10 years. she has no children.

i just can't stop crying. they move in 10 days. sometimes i wish it would happen tomorrow so i could just get my life back.

so, will there be life after they leave? how am i going to survive not having her little hugs?