MIL

My DH cousin has similar problems with his Dad but they use the respite for a break - normally away a week and catch up with home things for the second week and see relatives/friends that they can't do when caring. The Dad says he doesn't like it to them and then tells DH about the meals he has had and people he has met and activities. They use it twice a year.

Here's a link to the Wrens Association with links to other organisations - perhaps not useful on this occasion, but it could be of help in the future:

wrens.org.uk/useful-links/

Feel very blessed that you have such a good relationship with your mil.
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It is something I cannot even imagine.
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Failing suggestions, take up the two week respite. Why not ?

Brilliant idea Callistemon - yes she was in the Wrens - will look it up - thank you

You mention the RN Club, Jani - did she or a close relative have service in the forces?
The RBL have four hotels where ex-service people can go for a break, with or without a carer. If she is able to look after herself without needing help with dressing etc, that could be a thought.

I can't do a link at the moment but if you google 'Break Centres' RBL it should come up.

Jani I know it sounds harsh but I’d give her the choice, home alone or someone to come in and care for her. I’m sure she won’t want to spoil her sons birthday treat, maybe a bit of emotional blackmail in the nicest possible way.

Thank you MissAdventure will send an email x

Thanks tanith - I thought that a good idea but MIL said no to this - think she maybe having an awkward session as think she wants to come !!! X Age concern are for two weeks x

Could you pay for a companion/minder for the few days there must be agencies who could help.

www.care.com/en-gb/

This site seems reputable, it may be worth putting an ad in and seeing what responses you get.

Do you have a local AGE UK? Maybe they could help.