Firstly I’ve been on GN for few years but used to be under the name of Tessa101 but after phone upgrade I had to change my user name for some reason. Sorry just wanted to clear that up.
My lovely daughter and her family have just returned to the UK to live after living in Oz for 8 years.We have a lovely relationship and she’s moved to 5 minutes away from me.
My dilemma and it’s making me anxious when I’m not an anxious person is.
Since her return 6 weeks ago she keeps planning on things to do which involves me. I love and appreciate being involved however, they all cost money that I hadn’t budgeted for. I work part time and have small savings but I find I’m dipping into my savings more than I wanted to. Because it’s summer holidays she wants to take my 2 granddaughters to various things as they have missed out on since being in Oz. She has brought me tickets for certain events but I still have meals to pay for parking and petrol to contribute to. Do I mention it to her that it’s making me anxious in fear that she will either stop asking me or keep offering to pay for me which I don’t want either. Or do I wait till she mentions the events as they come up and say if you don’t mind I’ll give this one a miss. My other thing is I’ve waited for this moment for her to return to the family fold for 8 years and I don’t want her to feel like I’m not joining in now she is back. I can discuss things with her and she’s a sweet matured lady and very understanding but I’m trying to work out how to broach the subject without either of us feeling obliged.I like to hear any of your thoughts ideas on this as I’m getting myself in a tiss as weekend approaches there are another 2 days out planned.
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