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How old were you when your first grandchild was born?

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Juno56 Mon 12-Aug-19 20:24:00

Hello, new member here. I joined because my first grandchild will be born in late November. I am 63 and hadn't thought I was particularly old to be a first time grandma. However, when I mentioned the baby to a (slightly older) acquaintance she said: "ooh that's very late; I was under 50. You might not see her grow up"!! I was so taken aback that I had no response. It set me wondering though, as young couples delay starting a family it inevitably means that grandparents are older than was the norm a few years ago. So if people don't mind sharing, how old were you when you became a grandparent?

Auntieflo Mon 12-Aug-19 22:17:29

I was 48 when our first GS was born. Then five more followed, fairly regularly spaced, until after a long gap, our youngest GS was born when I was 72.

DanniRae Mon 12-Aug-19 22:07:35

I was 70 - and my daughter was 45. He is our little miracle baby smile.

Nanny27 Mon 12-Aug-19 21:45:07

What an unkind comment to make! I’m shocked! I was 53 when my first gc was born and 59 for the last but it wouldn’t have bothered me at if I had become a nanny in my 60’s.

Juno56 Mon 12-Aug-19 21:40:23

Thank you everyone for your responses and good wishes. I honestly don't think the woman who made the comment to me meant to be hurtful or offensive but as I said in my opening post I was taken aback. I am so looking forward to meeting my little granddaughter and intend to be around for many years to come. My DD and DSIL have said that it will be 'one and done' so she is very precious.

Iam64 Mon 12-Aug-19 21:39:30

What a silly comment - an acquaintance who will never become a friend I suppose.
I was 44 when my first grandchild arrived and 69 when the most recent arrival joined us. My older grandchildren are in their 20's, the younger group in primary/nursery school. They make me want to live for ever but I know that's not going to happen so I grab the moment with all of them.

Grandma70s Mon 12-Aug-19 21:24:23

I was 68. It didn’t seem particularly old to me. I remember my father was 65 when my first son was born, and he thought he was too young to be a grandfather. He lived to 94, so he did see my children grow up. My grandchildren are ten and seven. I don’t really expect to see them grow up. I’m their grandmother, not their mother.

As a family, we have all married and had children relatively late, after higher education and so on. It’s normal to us.

stella1949 Mon 12-Aug-19 21:17:12

54 when the first one was born, 62 when the last one arrived.

M0nica Mon 12-Aug-19 21:15:47

I was 63 when my first grandchild was born. DDiL's mother was 72. 12 years later she is still hale and hearty and good for another decade, by which time DGD (and her younger brother will be in their 20s. My father lived into his 90s, still indpendent, if I do that, and so far so good, DGC will be in their 30s.

Pantglas1 Mon 12-Aug-19 21:14:43

I was 44 and wanted 5 years with DH to do as we pleased swanning around the world but my daughter had other ideas! I spent her pregnancy feeling a little cheated but of course I fell in love with DGD and have been besotted ever since!

fairisle Mon 12-Aug-19 21:11:52

I was 47 when my 1st GC was born,i`m now 55 and have 3 GC.I was 22 when my 1st child was born, i was way too young.

gillybob Mon 12-Aug-19 21:07:21

First granddaughter at 44 followed by another at 46 then a grandson at 48 (all my DS’s children) my DD’s one and only child (our lovely little surprise) DGD was born last year . I was 56 smile

GrannyGravy13 Mon 12-Aug-19 21:02:53

I was 51, we have 6 GC with 2 more on the way.........

MissAdventure Mon 12-Aug-19 21:00:36

I was 39.
We start young in these parts.

LadyGracie Mon 12-Aug-19 20:59:11

I was 65 when blessed with my miracle granddaughter. smile There will unfortunately be no more!

paddyann Mon 12-Aug-19 20:58:30

I was 49 ,I had my daugheter when I was 24 and a half and she had her sone at the same age ,he's 16 now 3 others from 12 -8 and anew baby expected end of this month .I had a 15 year old when GS was born and he has a 10 year old and the expected baby is his.My granny was late 60's when I was born and I was 18 when she died 47 years ago.She was an inspiration and a joy in my life and I remember her every day ,Just enjoy this GC and dont think about how long you may or may not be around ,make memories for her/him like my granny did for us .

SalsaQueen Mon 12-Aug-19 20:57:56

I was 52 when our first grandchild (my son was almost 30 then), and 5 when her sister came along. Age doesn't mean a thing - enjoy the baby. It's great having grandchildren.

WOODMOUSE49 Mon 12-Aug-19 20:57:25

I was 54 but it all depends on how old we had our children. I had my daughter when I was 20.

She had her daughter when she was 35.

If she'd had her at same age me, I'd have been a gran at 40.

cornergran Mon 12-Aug-19 20:54:03

Ignore the comments. Unreasonable and unkind. I was 57 when the first was born, 67 when the most recent arrived. I can enjoy them all and spent far more time with the youngest as a baby and toddler because I had more time. Just enjoy it all.

Grannybags Mon 12-Aug-19 20:50:42

59 when then first one arrived and 64 by the time her sister came into the world. Parents hadn't wanted a gap that big but you can't make these things happen!

I don't think there will be any more

FlexibleFriend Mon 12-Aug-19 20:47:50

64 and that's pretty much what I expected.

MiniMoon Mon 12-Aug-19 20:47:04

I was 56. My daughter says that I'm a young Granny. I'm 68 now and the grandchildren are 12, 10, 9 and 6.
I don't think there will be any more.

GagaJo Mon 12-Aug-19 20:44:21

52, which was a lot older than I'd hoped I'd be. Daughter didn't really want children and he was a miracle (categorically not an accident from my POV). I would have loved him to have come along while I was in my 40s.

GrandmaKT Mon 12-Aug-19 20:41:19

I was 55. I'm now 60 and we have 3 GC (so far), but the vast majority of my friends aren't grandmas yet, so I think 63 if pretty much par for the course nowadays! Congratulations flowers

Hetty58 Mon 12-Aug-19 20:40:59

I was 51 for the first and 64 for the latest but there will be more. I think I appreciate and enjoy them more than I did my four children (I was so busy and stressed back then). The first one lived with me until he went to secondary school so was more like an 'extra' bonus child!

BBbevan Mon 12-Aug-19 20:40:39

I was 61, very near to youJuno It has never crossed my mind that I was 'old' to be a grandma. I was just extremely happy to be so.