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(109 Posts)
Curlywhirly Sun 10-Nov-19 20:57:55

I would do it, lovely opportunity to bond with your DGD. And the odd morning you can't do it because you are ill or away, your DIL can do it. Simple!

Callistemon Sun 10-Nov-19 20:57:24

Breakfast club for my DGD is from 8.15 so other granny gives DGD breakfast and takes her to school (not every morning). We don't live near enough but we would take turns if we were.
DDIL cannot be late for work (school).

Pantglas2 Sun 10-Nov-19 20:49:55

Can she do flexitime in her job?

Sara65 Sun 10-Nov-19 20:46:17

Give it a go, you’ll feel mean if you don’t. She may say, No Thanks, but at least you’ll have made the gesture.

Alima Sun 10-Nov-19 20:43:24

Isn’t her breakfast club from 7.30? Wouldn’t that solve the problem? We take DGS to and collect from school. Really not a problem, second nature now. In fact I see him across the road then he wants to make his own way, all of 20 yards. Re the slobbing about in PJs, still possible, cold and darkish at the mo, fling a coat on and nobody will notice. I don’t think it has to be a millstone around your neck, definitely Brownie points with DiL!

rosenoir Sun 10-Nov-19 20:33:48

I am obviously not as kind as you, I would not like the commitment which could go on for years. I would not like having to plan holidays, appointments and days out around school termtime. I would also worry about being unwell and still have to take her to school.

annsixty Sun 10-Nov-19 20:24:25

Well of course you will.
We all do what we can to help our family.
I think I know enough about you to say this.
Just think how much you will enjoy helping and spending time with your GD.
Is this likely to be for several years or is your GD likely to be doing it herself before too long?
How will school holidays affect you.?
What did your DiL do at this time?
Good luck with your decision.

BlueBelle Sun 10-Nov-19 20:21:46

No contest .....of course it’s a great idea why not

BlueSapphire Sun 10-Nov-19 20:16:46

My DIL has been in her new job for a week; asking her today how it was going she admitted that she found the morning commute difficult, and has been late for work three times this week because of traffic, which is not good. Now, I know she should probably have thought about this beforehand, but she really wanted to escape her previous job in which she was unhappy.

I am thinking of asking her whether she would like to drop younger DGD off with me at about 7.30 each morning to give her an extra half hour to get to work. I could then take DGD to school.

As far as I can see, pros are:
DDIL would not be so stressed in the mornings;
It would make me get up earlier and I would get more things done and get some exercise from the walk to and from school;
I would be spending good time with DGD and she wouldn't have to go to breakfast club.

Cons are:
I would not be able to slob around in my dressing gown for half the morning if I felt like it.

I would not do Mondays as I have an early yoga class, but every other day is fine.

Shall I offer?