Dear Newatthis, it takes a village to raise a child, we are told. I must say that I feel very torn and quite hurt by some of the comments here about step-grandmothers. Jealousy doesn’t become blood relations at all - although I can see that in your specific instance, your family may have some cause to be concerned.
In our case, we have been married for 15 years, and my husband was a widower with teenage children when we met.
I am called Nana Bazinga by my step grandchildren, aged 1-10, this name was the choice of their mothers. I was happy to be called Bazinga, much nicer, I feel!
But I’m afraid that one of their ‘real’ (blood) grandmothers and her family, have been very unpleasant and dismissive of me.
I also know that I have been called a gold digger by one ’real’ grandmother, although in fact it’s my money that has paid for quite a few holidays, toys and furniture, etc, for my step children and their children.
I do hope that your fears don’t come to fruition.