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sluttygran Wed 22-Jan-20 21:32:01

Any of you experienced grans know how to deal with a toddler who throws things?
DGS age 2, chucks stuff, and I know it's normal for toddlers to do this to some extent, but it's difficult to be in the room with a tot who uses every object he can lay his hands on as a missile!
Hes a dear little chap, very happy and affectionate, but he doesn't seem to understand that he might hurt someone. It's also very trying to have mugs and plates thrown around at meal times.
Obviously harsh words and punishments are out of place at such a young age, and we've tried taking away toys and books which are thrown, but he ends up with nothing to play with.
I guess it's attention seeking behaviour, but we don't understand why, as he is always lavished with love and care from the whole family.
Perhaps its something we have to put up with until he grows out of it, but I would be so glad of some advice.

ElaineI Wed 22-Jan-20 21:41:12

Mine does this sometimes but DD2 is quite strict and says no firmly and has a "look" which usually stops him - his little face crumples and he cries then a cuddle and a brief explanation. I'm afraid I am a soft touch but Papa isn't so much. He tends to throw when he is cross with a toy or gets over excited. We are training him off his dummy just now and only allowed at bedtime. He is nearly 22 months.

Buffybee Wed 22-Jan-20 21:43:15

You can say, "No", in a calm way as you take the object being thrown, away from him. Quite acceptable at this age and he will understand. The same time tone you would use if he was, say, going towards a plug socket.
You say that if you take the toys and books away, he has nothing to play with. Give him some soft toys and if he throws them as well, take them off him.
He will soon realise, (probably after throwing a tantrum) that throwing things makes him end up with nothing to play with and should stop.

agnurse Wed 22-Jan-20 21:47:22

Can you find a way to redirect him? If he wants to throw things, can you find a way to make it safe for him, such as taking him outside and having him throw balls into a little basketball net or something?

Hetty58 Wed 22-Jan-20 21:53:55

I'd start throwing things at him. Nothing dangerous, of course, just the nearest cushion or blanket. Take away anything he throws. If he ends up with nothing, he might decide to stop.

Dollymac Wed 22-Jan-20 22:33:33

Ah, it will pass...
They are little for such a short time

Grammaretto Thu 23-Jan-20 00:13:13

No wonder they are called the terrible twos! So much energy and no sense.
My nephew was a child like this and could carry on chucking or doing "naughty" things long after everyone else was worn out.
He was, and is I guess still, a very physical child who did things at 100% full on speed, volume, everything. Ours has calmed down somewhat, He's the father of 3 boys himself.
Good luck!

V3ra Thu 23-Jan-20 01:23:27
This is a really good explanation!
Children learn so much by throwing. I have a set of bean bags that are reasonably safe to throw. Also some lightweight plastic golf practice balls (the ones with the holes all over) and drainpipes to roll them down. He'll probably enjoy pouring as well: water, sand, dry oats into containers.
They get more skilled and learn what is and isn't acceptable to throw (eg food isn't), but they do need to be allowed to test this new skill haha.

ElaineI Thu 23-Jan-20 07:21:27

Great article V3ra and the beanbags are a good idea. Will also look for the plastic golf balls.

V3ra Thu 23-Jan-20 07:52:53

I bought mine online from an early years supplier, but they have them at Sports Direct.

M0nica Thu 23-Jan-20 20:51:11

When he throws thing inappropriately, just take the object from him and ignore him. Once he realises that throwing things around doesn't attract attention he will stop doing it, especially if you also have throwing and pouring things he can do when he does get a lot of attention.

sluttygran Fri 24-Jan-20 15:41:27

Thank you fellow Grans and Nannas for you helpful suggestions. V3ra - that article is most interesting and I have tried the tips.
DGS and I had a wonderful 'chucking' session with some foam blocks, then some cushions. He thoroughly enjoyed that, and today at lunchtime he didnt throw his plate.
Who would have thought that actually encouraging him would help to curb the excessive throwing!
I am making some bean bags, for another session, and of course I will gently and firmly tell him 'NO' if he throws anything unsuitable.
Thanks again for the tips, and the reassurance that so many toddlers do this smile

V3ra Fri 24-Jan-20 15:55:15

That's great news! Throwing definitely teaches a child something they need to learn about how the world works.
Put his name down for the cricket club lol